This will probably be long but do not want to dripfeed so here goes:
I have my dParents and younger dsis (just finished uni and still living at home) coming to visit in a few weeks for a long weekend. They asked if the dates were ok with us and I reassured it is fine. I really am looking forward to seeing them as my dc adore my parents and their aunt. They ring me almost every day and we visit them regularly (every couple of months), always really looking forward to the break.
They do not come to ours as much (perhaps a day visit twice a year) because dparents are self employed and very busy working long hours etc. However since beginning of this year they have cut down due to health reasons and realise it is time to take it easy. So they, along with my Dsis, visited in the summer staying for 4 nights. It was nice and I loved the company, dc were happy too.
However my DF became a little bored by day 2 and wanted to go home earlier than planned. He is a very gentle soul and far too polite to say anything but I overheard dsis and DM discussing it. I understand he is used to keeping busy and not one to kick back and relax, but I felt so disappointed having tried my best to take them out somewhere every day despite having a young baby, no car (dh needs it for work and I dont drive anyway), and living in a place with little to do for fun. Dh was great too; as soon as he finished work he was more than happy to drive us wherever was needed.
I could tell my dsis was quite bored too by the end of their visit (she having inherited Df's restless, ants in the pants gene), and admitted that perhaps a night or two would have been ideal. (DM on the other hand was fab, and made a point to say she had come to spend time with her DD and DGC so thats what she intended to do regardless of where we went and what we did). I have been recalling their last visit past couple of days and getting myself a little stressed.
So on the phone earlier today, dsis mentioned their visit and I asked her if DF actually wants to visit, or if DM is simply dragging him along (they are inseparable), as I do not want to hear how boring it is. I think she was a little taken aback by my bluntness but I was referring to her too indirectly and perhaps she understood.
To be fair I am really struggling at the moment. Dc1 is ever so naughty more days than not, hitting the baby and so bloody cheeky, to the point that I feel relieved after dropping him off to school. Dc2 is teething and nights are terrible. All he seems to do is whinge, poo and cling to me all day and I am resentful and exhausted. Everything is a battle with him from eating to nappy changing and sleeping. My family is aware of how I am feeling and very sympathetic, and I know they will help plenty during their visit but being tje host I will still obviously have to arrange things to do. And I feel I just cannot be arsed with the stress and the worry of if they are bored or not and simply keeping quiet about it to spare my feelings.
Also I do not have any close friends in the area, and struggled socially since moving here despite trying so hard with toddler groups etc so feel quite isolated when DH is at work. Perhaps which is why it hit a raw nerve when I learnt my family felt bored when visiting me. I felt a crap host and a boring person, not great when my self esteem is in tatters already.
P.s. I just learnt my dsis is seeing some herbalist during her visit to mine. She has booked an appointment etc but has not told me. (I learnt from someone else). So I feel slightly annoyed that we are not the real reason she is coming but to see the herbalist as she was the one pushing for the particular weekend chosen. I wont mention anything as I dont like drama but I feel she should have told me?
Thanks if you got this far.