to not like other peoples web cams on in my house....

[Dilash]

I dont like it, I dont like it!!

DDs friend is skyping (??) or something similar with her cousin in my house. Shes done this a few times

I really really want to tell her to shut it down...im being irrational arent I?

Yes a bit irrational - unless she is taking them on a guided tour of your house.

what worries you about it?

switch off the modem. Say "Oh dear, looks like the line is down - sorry!" and then, when she is gone, switch it back on again. Problem solved without confrontation

i just feel like there is an uninvited person in my house....
who is talking over me/ignoring me!! ...

i feel a bit invaded

i told her to turn it off
i tried not to. But i was really squirming

erm just ask her not to

Weird

Are people allowed to make phone calls in your house?

It's just like being on the phone (skyping) except with a face to face element. She's not showing them where you keep your jewellery, or giving them your address...

YABU.

Can you ask her to only do it in her room maybe?

I can understand wanting to be able to veg out and relax without someone else watching you (even though they aren't really.) DD facetimes with her friends at times and it an feel like this a bit sometimes, esp if I am in my Pjs or pottering about tidying or vegging out. But then she knows I prefer her to FT in her bedroom or playroom instead, so I am free to wander round my own home unobserved.

I think it's a bit rude actually and yes I would avoid making or receiving calls in other people's houses unless they were short and urgent.

but the other person can see me/my house/ everything...its weird

re phone-calls. people are allowed to make phone calls from my house, of course. I wouldnt expect them to come round to visit, then spend an hour chatting to their cousin on the phone, whilst they were here!!

Is it that you think it's rude because she's your dd's guest but ignoring her? So just like someone interrupting real life conversations to text all the time?

Ds used to Facetime his friends, until I heard him saying "And this is my mum and dad's room.."
I put a stop to that right then and there! His friend had asked for a tour of the house! They were 8 at the time.

it's quite rude isn't it?

i mean, if i was visiting a friend I wouldn't then put my phone on and sit and have a conversation with someone else.

But she's your DD's friend, she hasn't come to visit you

Just ask her not to.

I wouldn't have a problem if my room was tidy but it usually looks like a typhoon came through

YY, that as well lottie

I do feel the same about people texting all the time, whilst in other peoples company...

Woman's Hour did a feature on this. Lots of people find it odd to have strangers effectively in the room with them via Skype etc.

One woman had her kids skyping their dad (her ex) from the sofa and she felt really uncomfortable about it. I can see why.

Well that aspect, that she's effectively rejecting your dd's invitation to spend time with her, while sitting in your home taking up your dd's attention, is perfecty reasonable. She is being very rude, unless your dd is equally involved in the conversation.

oh yeah morris thats not right, is it?!

Im glad its 'a thing' and not just me, then..