to think that having 3 (and a hlaf) birthday parties is a little excessive, especially as the birthday boy is only turning 1?

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DS turns 1 in December. All very exciting but I am starting to feel a little embarrassed about his birthday party (ies).

Both me and my dp have huge families in 2 different countries, we are thinking of celebrating with dp's family the week before his birthday and my family the week after, I didn't intend to celebrate with my family but my dm has decided to make a cake and birthday tea for ds the night we arrive.

I have made some lovely friends this year who also have babies, me and ds have been invited to loads of 1st birthday parties so we are going to have a party for ds with my new friends and dp's friends (the ones who have kids).

My mamma group (which is like a nct group) are having a joint birthday party for all our babies as they all turn 1 in December.

AIBU to feel a bit overwhelmed by all the parties? I can't see how I can cut down on partying really.

Is it like this every year?

First birthday parties are amazing. The result is one really extra tired out baby. Bliss. Go to as many as possible and enjoy.

P.s. when they zonk out, that's your cue to relax and eat cake.

It sounds fine. It is just came really and you can never have too much cake

Don't feel embarrassed - the first birthday for the first child is an enormous landmark to celebrate for the parent. Enjoy it and make sure there are plenty of alcoholic drinks!

And yes, subsequent children barely get a look in…the good news is that they don't remember!

We had 3 parties for DS' first birthday as our bungalow is small and it would have been madness to have tried to fit everyone in! It was fun but tiring, I even made 3 George Pig cakes! For his 2nd birthday we hired the local scout hut... Much easier! :)

As long as they are with different people, that's fine! If someone is being invited to several, expect them to get pissed off.... (I know I did!)

Space is a big issue! We live in a one bedroom flat so having everyone here at the same time just isn't an option.

I'm glad it seems normal, I think that ds is going to be dissapointed once January comes and the parties and presents stop!

I don't see the problem, in fact I think it's lovely. Our ds's had a family 1st birthday party and a friends 1st birthday party, and it wouldn't have been a problem to have a second family one of our families couldn't get together.

It's not as if first birthday parties are known for being raucous events that go on all night, they are generally quite low key.

It will be no different to the baby than any other normal busy week where you see both family and friends .

It was dd 1st birthday last week! We partied hard!! she had a small tea party with her two best friends on the Wednesday, a family day with just me and dh on thurs (her birthday) an open house style party for our friends plus kids on Saturday and a family pub lunch followed by afternoon tea at home on Sunday! Totally exhausting but worth it!! It was great!