So dd accidentally left her coat at brownies. I probably should have noticed but didn't. Dh gave her a huge lecture about looking after belongins etc etc and made a big deal about not being able to afford a replacement. This was before we had checked with village hall whether it turned up. Fortunately it did. Also dh could afford to spend £250 on himself last month and another unnecessary £80 on children.
Obviously dd needed reminding that she needs to look after her belongings but given the circumstances I think dh was over the top.
AIBU