We are having a new carpet fitted today. Dp was with carpet fitter in the room when he asked him a question about the doorways and thresholds.
I heard dp say that he needed to ask me as "I'm in charge". So he calls me through and carpet fitter explains problem to me. I didn't understand and asked him to confirm what he meant.
Dp then butts in and says he understands what carpet fitter means and tells him to go ahead with option a rather than option b.
I had then realised what the carpet fitter meant but by then dp had told fitter what to do.
I made some half arsed comment about not really minding and skulked off.
This isn't about the carpet. This is a constant issue between us. I am always feeling undermined. He tries to understand and hence the calling me into the room to ask my opinion but if he doesn't listen,then what's the point?
I keep thinking i am to blame for not being assertive enough. Actually I don't really care about the carpet threshold but I do care that if I am to be asked,I should be listened to.