to be fuming at dh's boss

[PrincessScrumpy]

And really upset for dh.

An old work colleague of dh died out of the blue and for legitimate reasons the funeral has had to wait 4 Weeks so plenty of notice. DH planned to go and it was agreed he and a more senior member of staff would travel together.

Today dh went to work in suit and black tie. Funeral is this afternoon and about 1.5 hours drive. turns out his boss forgot and gave another colleague the day off as holiday so now they can't let dh go. I am outraged at how insensitive they are being and they are taking the attitude "oh you know it's just one of those things"

Tell your DH to still go. The boss will have to sort out the problem another way and call back in the other person.

that's not on at all!!!

Yep, he should say well I'm sorry but I'm going, it was arranged with you with plenty of notice and it's not my problem if you've ballsed up.

I'd be fuming too.

Agree he should still go. Bosses problem not his.

What does the company rule book say re. booked absences? Does he have a signed form approving the time off and is it the HR dept that's giving him the "just one of those things" stuff?

IMO it's the Managers cock up and they should take the hit re any trouble for being under manned and let him go.

It may be worth DH making a quick approach to HR, see if they are willing to remind Manager that it is his responsibility to manage and not his subordinates job to suffer the consequences when he stuffs up.

Depends what the general culture of the company in though.

he's only worked in this office for a few months (although 10 years in the company) so he's nervous about rocking the boat. No forms were filled in and although it was discussed dh didn't check whether it was in the diary as he was travelling with his boss' boss. Dh is very "nice" so probably won't kick off like I would.

If I were dh I'd email the boss's boss and ask him to express his condolences and apologize for his absence due to work b

I second what Hermoine123 said.

I agree he should go. Can't he get his boss's boss on side and say the team can cope without him for the afternoon?

Obviously he needs to contact his boss's boss to let him know he won't be going. I am sure he can do it in such a way to drop his boss in it explain exactly why he can't go and hope the boss's boss pulls rank

Screw that! Its the boss' mistake. He needs to deal with it!

He didn't go. Boss' boss furious on dh's behalf especially as the other colleagues holiday was agreed yesterday!

:(

I thought the advice to deliberately drop the OP's DH's boss in it was mean spirited. It sounds like it was an accident, and the boss apologised. What's with the vengeance?

Finaceprincess I'd wouldn't look at it as a personal dropping of the boss in it but a professional one. Basically I wouldn't bitch to the boss' boss about it, but I wouldn't cover for the boss either.

It may well be a genuine accident but it is still the boss' responsibility.

I am sorry that happened to your DH. However, his boss must have realised that his boss would notice that DH wasn't there. At least this way your DH's boss has dropped himself in it without your DH doing anything at all.

It was a colleague's funeral, not just a minor mess up, if I was the boss, I'd expect to be hauled over the coals if I had to make someone miss a funeral.

Is it the sort of job where they genuinely cannot cope if too many people are off together?

Trying to give them the benefit of the doubt here, but it sounds horrible.