To have said no to my lodger

[Doinmummy]

Got a new lodger and for the third time he has come down and asked if he can borrow a cigarette. I have given him one on the previous two occasions but this time I said no.

YANBU. I'm not a smoker but I'm familiar with the lodger who thinks you're his mum. Knock it on the head and let him be a misery. Count down the days until he leaves. I had to get rid of a female lodger after 6 weeks because she was disgusting and treated my lovely home like a student hovel. She 'borrowed' every scrap of food she could find (including left-overs that I'd put aside for lunch the following day). The straw that broke the camel's back was finding her creamy knickers crotch-side up on the bathroom floor. You are not his mother. You have a business arrangement. The more professional you can keep it, the better.

He has already done the can I borrow a bit of milk/ juice/ bread thing. He is extremely irritating, talking loudly on the phone at 1.30am , not shutting the bathroom door when he uses the toilet.

jux I am waiting for my vapour cig to arrive in the post.

YANBU, I'm glad for you that he is only there another couple of weeks.

I've never understood the whole thing of asking someone for a fag in the street. A light maybe, but not an actual cigarette as they are so expensive. I'm not a smoker but I think people who do that may as well just be begging for money.

I am not, and never have been, a smoker, no one else in the house is either.

Doesn't stop my (fairly new) neighbours knocking at my door and asking if I have any I can sell them.

Perhaps I should buy a packet, and sell them at £1 per cigarette!

I think you're on to a money maker there Golden

As a smoker it is the one thing you always make sure you have - cigarettes to smoke !

Aye, could turn out to be a lucrative wee business Doin

The house is rented by 3 young single guys who work offshore, so coming and going at all hours and days of the week, so that's probably the reason for them not having any smokes.

I've just received my e cig through the post!

What have you got? They've changed so much since my brother first showed me his - about 5 years ago! When he died we found he had 5 or 6 different ones, a couple of pipes, and tons of stuff for mixing liquids to soak the wadding in the ends. The cops took the lot when they broke into his flat, with the paramedics; he had died very suddenly, just sitting on his sofa. The police had no right to take any of it, but they did and I never got it back.

Anyway, good luck with it. My bro stopped smoking altogether within a month of getting his first, and he was a confirmed and determined smoker.

If he cant afford fags can he afford to pay you?
That would be my concern. Fags are so expensive. Why should you fund the twat. Where did you find this ponce lodger

I went through a brief sponging phase, but it was pens for me: I forgot my pencil case once in school, so begged a pen of a mate....and after that one time its like my memory stopped working when it came to pens because I had a mate who would lend me one. This went on for three solid weeks, until she said no!!!!! Then my memory suddenly healed itself and I remembered from then on. I never meant or wanted to be this pen-sponger, but its easy to slip into.

So he can afford them, but cba to go buy them? sounds like me. YANBU. I'm a lodger, it's part of the unspoken rules that you don't borrow things until you know your landlords or housemates!

My landlords moved somebody else in three/four weeks ago and until I moved everything out of the bathroom she was using my wash stuff. Sounds petty but I have few treats in life and I spend a lot on my wash stuff and not once did she ask to use it. Even now, if I don't bring it back to mine and DPs room she uses it And she seems to eat through loo roll (which we buy as it was our bathroom before) so we have to bring that back in too.

My landlady thinks IABU to complain about it and doesn't want me to talk to housemate about it and also thinks that I am extremely petty for bringing the loo roll back in as we all "take turns" bollocks She'll regret that when we move out early next year and they have no skivvies to clean the kitchen because they can't find anybody to take this room (odd part of town with bad bus service and not much in the way around!)

I don't smoke any more though, it's just things like milk/bread/etc that I cba to go buy. I get DP to do it

I think its a cheek to come down at almost midnight and try to scrounge stuff. Make sure he pays his bills before he goes!

I'm sorry about your brother jux

I've got some new fangled ecig with cherry flavour juice in it. I only have a couple of puffs whereas I would have smoked a whole cigarette .

confusedpixie you are not unreasonable to take your stuff out of the bathroom . Everything is expensive and I see no reason for you to supply someone else with shampoo etc. As a landlady I would say something to the scrounged on your behalf. Good tenants are few and far between , she'll be sorry when you leave.

I keep getting two schoolgirls in uniform coming up to me each morning at the bus stop and asking to 'borrow' a fag. I've said no but if they call me a 'tight bitch' again I might cave and buy them a pack of 10 each.

Yanbu. I had lodgers in the past. I always made it very clear that we bought all our own food etc, plus no smoking in house. I still caught them taking my laundry detergent, kitchen towel etc but they knew the score.

I think some lodgers ( and I've been doing this for 14 years so I've had a fair few) are just piss takers with no clue about being respectful of other peoples property etc.

At the moment I can hear every word idiot fag scrounger is saying to his equally dim girl friend. He has no respect for the fact some of us have to sleep and are not even vaguely interested in listening to his drivel.

He asked me tonight if I wanted him to pay his rent which is due today. I resisted the urge to say ' no you stupid arse, I have lodgers for the good of my health'

Was he suitably aggrieved when you said yes?

Hoik up your judgeypants. A long lecture on the health risks, the smell and the expense over a lifetime will probably put him off asking you again. Especially if hypocritical to boot.