Long and dull, I apologise in advance.
Last week H bought an expensive hi-tech gadget (can't say what as may out self). It would apparently help him do one of his jobs around our house, instead of just fixing or replacing the original gadget we already had. He bought it from his own money, so no problem there. But he didn't discuss it with me at all, just announced he had bought it it in front of our families so I didn't have chance to say anything, then brought it home.
He wanted to prove to me it was a fantastic item so started showing me how it works, then found out that it hadn't worked as well as it was supposed to have. I didn't say 'I told you so...' but I told him I didn't like the non-discussion and thought there was a couple of reasons it wasn't a very effective purchase, one of which was a safety issue.
He got very defensive and accused me of laying a 'barrage' of reasons upon him which was too negative for him to hear. I had no idea he loved his gadget so much, but he took my criticism of the product very personally and this led to a bit of a row.
Finally he told me I was implying it should be returned (I wasn't) and there was no way it was going back so I would just have to accept it. I agreed it was fair enough, his job, his gadget, but in future I would like to be able to share my opinions without getting shot down, and would like at the very least a bit of a chat about how we deal with our household jobs and purchases before anyone buys anything.
Last night I mentioned about this household job needing to be done and he tells me he has taken the gadget back to the shop - again with no discussion. So now we don't have anything to do this particular job. I haven't said anything as can't really be bothered with raising the whole thing again, but I feel like he has totally missed my point with the lack of discussion for the second time. From his side he thinks I was just complaining and so as a result he has taken the problem away and fixed the situation.
WIBU in the first place to tell him why I thought it was a crappy waste of money? Is he BU in making large purchases for the home without including me?