To think my mum might step down (or up)

[Mosschops30]

Me and dd have planned a girly trip together for years which my mother kind of hijacked and said she would love to come.
Which was fine when I thought ex h would have the other dcs (separate holiday planned for them so they're not missing out.
However he won't have them and that's the only week we can logistically go

AIBU to think my mum might step down and offer to babysit whilst I go with dd?
She's not hard done by, she took 3 holidays last year, one was a business class RTW trip!!
The fact remains that if she doesn't then no one goes! And she is welcome to come on the proper family holiday

Yes he 'loves his kids so much' but it appears it's a chore if he has to have them

did you ask your ex? (runs and hides)

Can you not rearrange the date of the trip?

Your mum might not need another holiday but by the sound of it she is really looking forward to spending time with you and dd. I don't think I would ask her to step down I would try and rearrange things some other way.

Can't re arrange due to dd exam commitments and also climates of where we want to go makes travel difficult

Surely it's not true that if your Mum doesn't babysit no one goes. Your mum could go with your DD and you could stay with the kids.

Yes I'm that well off that I can send two people off on holiday and not go myself!
Anyway dd would rather not go than go alone with her gm

Ah well, there's always next year. It's asking a lot of your mum to step in for a whole week.

"Me and dd have planned a girly trip together for years which my mother kind of hijacked and said she would love to come."
I'm guessing that the hijack is still smarting a bit. Does she do that sort of thing a lot?

But surely your mum wants to spend time travelling with you and your DD, as much as go on holiday per se, so being asked to babysit instead of going with you would mean that she is giving up a chance to spend time with you (plus you're pretty much making it clear that you'd rather she didn't join you).

With hindsight I shouldn't have 'asked' exh I should have told him I was away and he needed to make arrangements for the children.
He doesn't have to ask me because if he wanted a week away it would only be one night that he couldn't have them whereas I have to ask for a week!

The only reason he won't have them is because he doesn't want to take a week off so early on in the year!

Just to update
Exh still refusing to have dcs 'so early in the year' and absolutely wont move on it selfish twat
Hes also let me down next week when im on a course saying he will now only have them on his days.
Fine fine fine, carry on you sad bitter man

Anyway my mum offered and i said no either we all go or no one goes, so we are back to the drawing board