Bullying at secondary school WWYD?

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Looking for advice from people who've had to deal with issues of bullying in school.

How it started, was my little sister (13) was at school, a friend of hers was picking on another girl and made her cry, my sister went to this other girl to make sure she was ok, after that Dsis best friend and another friend, started to be very passive aggressive bitchy towards Dsis, not saying things to her more around her and walking past her, then they went on half term, my mum something was up, because they had issues with these 2 girls before.

Mum managed to get the truth from her and on my mums behalf, me and my older sister went with Dsis to speak to the student support manager to see what can be done. That was last week.

They had them all in twice, but since week nothing has changed, comments like bitch and snitch are still being thrown about, but not actually to Dsis, now today after picking up Dsis, and her tearfully telling me they have written letters to the head blaming it all on Dsis, and Dsis is the one making the nasty comments.

My Dsis is miserable, hurting herself because they are making her feel like crap, they keep trying to turn others against her, neither girls parents know the full story, nor have they had detention or isolation.

Short of moving Dsis to another school, does anyone else have any advice on how to move forward with putting an end to this, the school wont move her to another class and she keeps being made to repeatedly work with both girls.

Any advice will be appreciated x

It is very difficult to deal with. If they are name calling etc but not physically hurting her, then you could try working with her on her confidence. Show her that they are behaving this way because the are cowardly. Help her to see that their words carry no weight, and try to arm her with some good verbal put downs. If she is confident in herself, then they won't get pleasure from their behaviour. I had this (with an adult, can you believe) and loudly within her hearing, told her friends that I was very flattered that I was so important to her that she had to talk about me all the time! It stopped immediately, because she couldn't talk about me without thinking that I thought it was because I was important to her. Build her up to see that the opinions of these girls mean nothing.
The school should have notified the parents, and you should ask the school what their plan of action is. Ask them for their anti-bullying policy.

You need to let the school know that it is continuing. A letter to the head outlining what happened when and asking to see their anti bulling policy. If that fails write to the governors and LEA

If you suspect the 13 year old is depressed or self harming as a direct result of the bullying, I would inform the school/LEA in writing (email?) that she will only return to school once the school is able to fulfil its duty of care and therefor stop the abuse. I would then keep her off school and request work be sent home.

Lastly mum needs to formally write to the head and ask that the bully or daughter be moved class. Finish the letter by saying you want the issue red lived this week and look forward to hearing from him/her

They school knowing about the harming, and that is still continuing, im gonna speak to head of house tommorrow, because they family arent happy with the way the Student support manager is handling it, since they dont consider what the girls are doing to be bullying, but it is when someones schooling is affected then it is.

They have turn all her friends against her with nasty comments, even getting younger years to call her a bitch. The school want her to basically front it out and not put it in the other girls files.