Weird woman and my Husband wwyd?

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My husband has just started out in a very competitive industry and is still finding his feet.

He met this woman a few weeks ago while at work and she could be quite helpful to him, however i was helping him a couple of weeks ago and so was she, I'd never met her before so was chatting to her about her work and tying to be friendly. She on the other hand was extremely rude ignoring me and dismissing anything I said, she had also forgotten something she needed so i offered her use of mine she didn't even acknowledge my offer just talked over me like i wasn't even there.
I could tell my hb felt a bit uncomfortable but I left it as she will be helpful to him in his work.

Since then my hb has worked with her again (without me present this time) and she has been emailing him and telling him how happy she is they can work together and how amazing his work is and stuff like that, she's also been calling him hun and signing off mails and text with kisses.

He came back from a job with her the other day and said she wants to meet him for a drink so they could discuss future working plans etc.

I trust my husband 100% but am feeling very uncomfortable with this womans motives, especially after the way she was with me.
I have mentioned this to my hb but he says shes like it with everybody (apart from him it seems) and IABVU.
Am I? or am i right to feel a bit unnerved by her.

Thank you if you got this far and sorry its very long but I just wanted to get the whole thing ascross

I would take him up on the offer of going with him.

"How and when does he intend to do that without either leaving things slightly ambiguous (in which case she will willfully misinterpret him), or making her feel embarrassed, insulted, and vindictive? She's already behaving inappropriately despite knowing that he's married, so I very much doubt that subtlety will do the trick."

That's my worry. I may have completely read it wrong and risk embarrassing us all and ruining what could be a beneficial relationship for both they're careers.

"If he has other contacts with the same knowledge, this is a no-brainer. Does he like her work more than he respects your feelings?!

I'm not sure I hope not.

Well just be thankful she's not offering blow jobs at work do's like a woman is at my husbands work.
My husband doesn't go to work do's as he has better things to do but he was told by his mate that this woman who professes to adore her husband and kids has been offering blow jobs to further her career luckily she will not go far because everyone has just laughed in her face. My husband is scared of her and just hides, thankfully he can't in anyway further her career so he's safe

Op I think you are right to have these doubts regarding this woman. My DH wouldn't brush aside someone chatting and addressing him in such an overly friendly way regardless of that being how she is with everyone else, because it's not right. I think him not calling her out on it is giving her the go ahead she is seeking out. I think you should tell your DH how you feel.

I can see the benefits to him, but not her. So what are her motives?

If anything his input brings her more work. Her motives? I don't know, getting into my hb pants maybe.

OP I can see how this is making you uncomfortable. I think the preditor woman fancies him. So sorry to be blunt but you did ask. What is she like?

Zombie are you for real? Is the woman at work serious??

Has anyone taken her up on her offer, and has she advanced her career because of it?!

I'll never look at the little face in the same way again, cosy

Tell him to invite the whole office out too, make a night of it. Send an email round the place. I have a co-worker asked me out for drinks and that's exqctly what I did. You're not being rude by not wanting to be alone with this person.

Hahaha Zombie, yes I am grateful why on earth would anyone think that's a good idea.

We have had a discussion and I've agreed to go for drinks with them and my hb has agreed to keep everything totally transparent and to not work with her again should she be as rude as she was before.

Thanks everyone your input was most helpful.

Good to see your DH is sensible and understanding.

Glad you're going too - you do have to make sure you look fabulous, and get on really well with everyone whilst still taking care to be nice to Poisonous Office Witch.

Any bad behaviour on her part will soon become apparent to your DH, let her make an arse of herself if that's what she chooses.

And if she doesn't, and she's nice - well that's great. She might just be a little insecure

Good luck, and let us know how it goes!

Glad to read you are going!! When will these "work drinks" be taking place? Be sure to let us know how it pans out, you will know her motives by her attitude at drinks, if she's a bitch again you know she does fancy him

Take care

He would be a complete idiot to go on a date with this woman who obviously has designs on him.

Thanks everyone