to not want to move closer to step children and PIL?

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When I met dh, we lived in town A. We then moved to town B, 25 miles away. His ex then moved to town C, a further 35 miles from town B. We have been settled here for five years now. Within those five years his ex has moved house 6 times within town A and C. PIL live 5 mins from ex and step children. Dh keeps talking about us moving there to be closer to dsc and to PIL for childcare. I don't want to because:

Our eldest is settled in school, has lots of friends and is happy here. She's really flourished at her school and loves it.
Our town is fairly small and close knit. Town C is pretty rough and run down, plus near a city I wouldn't like to live near as it has poor schools, drug issues etc.
Dhs ex has form for moving a lot. We could move there then she could decide to move again - we can hardly follow her around the country.

Aibu to not want to move?

No, don't move - she'll move again.

Why is it all about them?

If you are happy there and DC well settled in school, no reason for you to move at all.

Don't let them railroad you into anything you don't want to do.

I definitely wouldnt in your shoes. She is very likely to move again i she has 6 times in the last 5 years!

Does your dh mean he wants to use your pil as daytime childcare or does he mean babysitting if you go out for the night?

I wouldn't move either for all of the reasons you state. Sounds like the current distance isn't huge so I see no problem.

YANBU