AIBU or WWYD. Noisy musical instruments in a semi-detached house

[EightToSixer]

If your neighbour comes over at 9:05pm to ask you very nicely whether you realise that the clarinet their daughter is playing can be heard very loudly next door and had woken their child up at 6:50am in the morning and 9:05 the same evening, do you:
A) apologise that the noise travelled.
B) ask what time the noise would be a problem and arrange to play at a more reasonable time
C) say, it's not that loud! what do you expect me to do about it?!

ialways why the hell should they move to another room in their OWN house. I think OP has absolutely no consideration for her neighbours. Its all about her and her kids. Oh Fuck everyone else. I think its a bloody cheek. If I got woken up at 6.50 in the morning because of some poxy clarinet i would want to smash it up. Its not all of you lot having to put up with it. Put yourself in the neighbours shoes.

I also don't think the problem should arise tbh.

Music is played in our house 7 days a week/ every week.
It never starts before 9am and always finishes at 8pm.
They are loud instruments and we have an arrangement with our attached neighbour that he will tell us if there is ever a problem.
Everyone also plays on an inside room so not in the room that has an adjoining wall.
You can't expect neighbours to support such early mornings.

Mylovelyboy this is a reverse aibu, op is the neighbour

I agree with the poster above who suggested you should buy your dcs a drum kit and encourage them to practise lots!

B. We dance flamenco and have encountered this with several neighbours. I always ask if a new one moves in (we live in an apartment building). Generally we don't dance before 9 or after 8pm though.

The child should use a mute. hate clarinets, I play the oboe myself

OP SORRY SORRY SORRY mis-read well look at my posts and you can see how i feel on the matter . Apologies for mistake

:D it's fine mylovelyboy, I worked out what you meant, your response was as suitably Sweary as mine (once I'd closed the door again) :)

Someone in my row of houses plays the drums. Their lesson used to be at 8am on a Saturday. I thought that a little unreasonable....never seem to get any better either.

never seem to get any better either.

Why is a drum machine better than a drummer? With a drum machine, you only have to punch the rhythm in once.

MyLovelyBoy. Lol, no worries

6.50am?!

To be honest I'd be having a word with my child about practising at that time for my own sanity!

I would nicely request that they provide a mute for the clarinet.

A clarinet mute is about £25. I have one to practice scales and it's a useful thing indeed. Previous to that I used to play into the wardrobe (really).
7.00 is actually quite a normal time to practice particularly if there's an exam coming up, but it's also normal to be considerate and not piss the neighbours off.
Perhaps you could buy a hammer drill and 'make' some things next to the party wall? Make sure you get up nice and early....

D: Break the clarinet over my knee.

A and B.

6.50am is way, way too early to be playing a musical instrument!!!

I've never been so glad that our house is detatched as my DDs play the trombone, drums, keyboard, plus other assorted instruments.

They don't practice before 8am (they are teenagers :) ) but often play quite late at night, we are considerate neighbours I have stood outside to make sure the sound doesn't carry and they have to play with the window shut.

Agreeing practice times that are reasonable would be a very adult solution, however if it was with us it would need to be up to 9pm

Warned the nextdoor neighbours when dd1 started bassoon, they just laughed and said you'll know if gets too loud as we'll dig the violin out! Anyway she's not allowed to play before 9am or after 8:30pm(nextdoor have young kids)

at friday16

I dread to think what our neighbours thought of us when I was a teenager. My sister and I both played the piano, I played the cello and she played the violin (badly). Because of the way the house was set up, the living room adjoining the shared wall was really the only place the piano and cello would fit. We warned them when we moved in, and agreed not to play after 10pm (no small kids involved), and I think they only once came round, at which point we promptly shut up. But despite all that, it must have been so painful for them! The wall was paper thin - we could hear each others' TVs and ours was not on loudly - so I dread to think how much they must have wanted to smash our instruments to pieces.

When ds aged 5 was desperate for a drum kit, I forked out for a second hand electronic one from eBay, because it had a volume control and I don't want to be unfair to the neighbours.

However, my neighbours were playing music until 4am last Saturday. The baby slept through it, but it kept dh awake for hours.

I'd much rather listen to someone trying to learn an instrument than someone else's ITunes playlist. Keep music live

Just as we're detached then.... 7am practice was the norm till the kids got lazy/ dd decided spending time in her hair was vital... Now the hair dryer on and off for ages is very annoying!

Op I agree if you are attached you need to adjust the practice schedule- straight after school is good ( and I know most kids watch tv then, but with the miracle of catch up she could watch kids programmes at 9 pm to 6.50 am instead!)

We're in a semi and all play instruments. Violins, piano, recorder, electric guitar. The guitar is the easy one to control noise of as you can play headphones. Violin and recorder aren't easily mutable and as it's the adults playing many instruments and we're not home until 7 we say no instruments after 9-9.30pm (10pm if we know neighbours are out). No early morning instruments before 9.
I agree that vaccuuming, stereo music, loud TVs especially people who have a TV in their bedroom next to the partition wall can be just as bad if not worse as the noise goes on for longer.

We once lived next door to a pianist in a semi with party walls. After eight months and several fruitless arguments we moved out,and many years later I still feel sick when I remember that period of our lives. Every move since we've looked for a house with a sitting room with no party wall,it became a bit of an obsession.