to wish my 10yr old dd would wear her bliddy coat

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Ok. My dd had a coat that was too small. Butshe loved it. We went and bought a new one and she picked an argument saying she didnt like any. Even though there was one similar to mine). I told her to pick - or i would. (Had a big humdinger over shoes a few days prior).

She picked one. Now she refuses to wear it. Its freezing outside these days and she will not put it on.
There is an argument every single day over this bliddy coat.
I bought her another one which she alsl refuses to wear.

The coat she wants isa barbor(however its spelt). I dont have the money for this.

Aibu to make her wear something she picked. And aibu to be getting more and more frustrated with her over this?

I think at 10 you can safely give her the coat she has and leave her to it. Shrug your shoulders and tell her nobody cares if she wears it or not but she will be the one who's cold if she doesn't.

Maybe look into some thermals instead so she doesn't have so much need of a coat.

No teenagers wear coats, BTW. They just don't.

She's 10

Surely you can think of a consequence severe enough for her to do as she's told?

Does she get away with other kinds of disobedience?

Leave her to freeze then, it's her lookout. Also, don't be drawn into an argument with a ten year old. You're the adult and what you say goes.

Ha ha, I bet you sound like your Mother now?

This is troubling me greatly at the minute. DD refuses to wear a coat because she's 'not cold' Drives me to distraction because I am the coldest person ever and it makes me cold to see her look so bloody cold. But I also refused to wear a coat at her age. My poor mother gave up. So I can't really insist. I do have a silent snigger when DD is kind of bluish round her lips though [ grin]

Lol. See my problem is i feel really bad about it. As though im neglecting her or something. Maybe im just too soft.
You are all right though, its her choice if she wants to be cold. Even though she would never admit she was.

She does always put it on in the end. Im just sick of the daily "coat on" then "oh mam but whhhhhhhhyyyy" its cold. Its not.
I gave up the other day and thought sod it. Then me dad rang... "have dd coat ready. Shes freezing" grr

Nothing bad will happen to them if they get cold. You provide an acceptable and functional coat. Your responsibility then ends. If it's never worn you can sell it as new on Ebay when she's grown out of it.

Can you please just say 'bloody'

Anyway at that age my mum would have MADE me wear the coat, sounds like she's being precious and acting like a madam. Put your foot down! If she doesnt wear it, well she'll have to go cold wont she. I'm sure she'll change her mind

Lol :-)

She is a madam alright. This has been going on for a few weeks now. Shes soo head strong. Always has been!
I have stood my ground with the coat..and made her wear it. im just getting fed up now. The repetition is killing me ha.

I sometimes wonder as to whether it is me being stubborn. But...i am the parent, and she is to do as i say.

But jeeeeez how long will this last haha

Thank you all. I am sure she feels the cold - just wont admit it.

Instead of arguing or getting myself stressed out about it. I am just going to tell her from now on to take her coat. Rather than telling her to put it on.

It may work better. She mighr not feel like im telling her what to do, and she has it to wear if it does get too cold for her and to carry if she cant cope with the weather.

Treat her like a toddler and pick your battles. If you start giving the impression you aren't bothered whether she wears one or not, she might cease being so dramatic. That, or she'll realise it's not very nice feeling cold.

You are being unreasonable by using the word bliddy, it makes me need to scratch my face. Its like someone chewing on woollen gloves. Aarrgghh, I've got the shivers now.

Haha russian. Sorry. I will remember for next time :-)

Is this a UK thing?

My kids-teens now, have never not worn coats.

She's 10-it's cold out-she needs a coat on!

It is a UK thing. Thank you op for being so understanding about the use of that word!!! P.s maybe you can get her a Barbour coat on ebay?

She is 10 not 3. If she is cold it's here problem. She won't get ill.

Are we sharing a daughter? mine will wear her blazer for school but that's it. Mine is 12 though.
She chose a quilted coat last week. She won't wear it for school as ' no one else does'. She is perfectly correct. Not one of her peers wears a coat to go to school .
The school must bear some of the burden for this state of affairs. They don't have lockers or cloakrooms to keep them in.

I don't force my toddler to wear his coat and trigger a meltdown. I let the natural consequence of being cold take effect and then it's easy and civilised to suggest that wearing the coat will warm him up. He's much more oblliging then. He knows cold and hot and will tell me. As the autumn is setting in he's begining to improve on the coat resistance. (The shoe resistance seems to crack very easily, I think it may be a short phase...)

I didn't wear a coat to school after year 8. Unfortunately having stopped growing then, my very little girly coat from M&S permanently fitted and it was y11 before I got a coat that I was prepared to wear in public. Carrying it around school was a pain too.

At 10 she's old enough to know what a coat does and apply one if needed. She's also sufficiently pre-teen to really hold a principle against pressure.

Probably beside the point, but if you're anywhere near South Shields, there's a Barbour outlet/factory shop where I just got a (probably last season or whatever) new Barbour coat reduced from £160 to £39 so maybe worth a look if you ever want one.

Ha! If you're with 12 miles of South Shields, head to Newcastle... It'll throw not wearing a coat into perspective...

My 9yo DD is the same, used to really drive me mad every morning, but she wouldn't give in and put the coat on, she'd rather freeze all the way to school, I just let hee get on with it now but I make her take her coat with her.

I was in s.shields yesterday. I never seen it. Where abouts is it? Thanx for that, i didnt know. 39 is much more in my price range!

Thank you all. Its good to know im not the only one going through this.
Its made me feel much more relaxed about it all.