To say "bring a bottle"?

[Lilacroses]

Sorry, trivial. Just having a thick moment! Am inviting friends and neighbours over for a little get together in a couple of weeks. Is it still ok to ask them to bring a bottle or is that now considered rude?! We'll obviously be doing some food and will get some drinks in too.

Not rude at all.

What would be rude was if they didn't think to bring one without being asked

I wouldn't mind my friends asking me to bring a bottle.
Most people do anyway when asked for dinner IME.
Have a nice time!

I completely agree. I'd feel rude if I asked but would consider them very rude if they didn't do it off their on back anyway

We always spread the cost in our group of friends. Perfectly acceptable IMO.

Not rude at all - very good idea :)

Totally normal IMO

You shouldn't need to ask, it would be rude to turn up without a bottle

Not rude at all. I would always take a bottle when going over to someone's house.

I am sure nobody would turn up without a bottle.
Just courtesy.

Normally people say "can I bring something" and you say "bottle of something would be lovely please" and they say "ok".
Or they don't say anything but come with a bottle anyway.
There shouldn't be any need for you to bring it up unless your neighbours were dragged rather than brought up
You sound v hospitable :)

Thanks all, hoped you'd say that. You're right though, it would be rude if they didn't. I've possibly been spending too much time with my brother and sil who are loaded but always arrive empty handed!

Of course it's ok.

Totally normal. Everyone does it at our parties. Everyone drinks what they want to. Cost is spread so having a party doesn't bankrupt someone so we can all continue to have parties.

I recently dropped a crate of beer round to a friends during the day with a note attached saying 'Please let your fridge look after me until later', left it on their doorstep, rang the doorbell and jumped back in my car... Was quite funny watching the puzzled expression on their faces when they opened the door. It meant my beers were chilled, I could walk to their party and not have to cart a big box of beer

Totally normal. And I agree probably unnecessary.

I would never actually ask anyone to bring a bottle, but I have never had guests that don't bring one or two.

I would be slightly affronted if someone asked me to bring a bottle, but only because I wouldn't dream of not bringing any, so I wouldn't need to be told.

I dare say I'd get over it though.

BYOB is normal.

I'm sure you're right Hercy. It's just that I have a really rude brother who never does so I worry that others are going to be the same! Dread having to schlep down the offy mid party

Not rude to ask at all. Would be rude not to bring something I think

Agree. Would people really NOT take something ? Apart from bloody flowers which are a reet pita

I think BYOB is slightly different to bringing a bottle of wine when going for dinner at a friends. With BYOB you take what you'd like to drink at the party or at least would like to add to the booze available to drink. With taking wine that is a present for the friend. They might decide to serve it at the party but equally might hold onto it for another time. I think OP is asking for BYOB which is totally fine but the bottles are not a gift for the party giver.

Please ask; we hosted a party a couple of years ago for MIL, providing and cooking all the food and only ONE person brought a bottle of wine, the rest of the greedy moochers hung around until dh went out and bought beer and wine.

Annoys me to this day

YADNBU it's rude to show up with nothing I no longer invite round a group of friends who used to always come empty handed.

Thanks all, no I'm not really suggesting that people have to bring all their own drink. It would be fine if some didn't because we will provide some but we would run short if very few people brought a bottle. Gatekeeper ,that has happened to me twice but both times with family so I am wary! I don't want to be rude but I don't want to end up dashing out to the offy. It's not the end of the world but it would annoy me. Anyway, I actually wrote the invite and didn't put please bring a bottle but I may mention it very politely when they rsvp.