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Original poster

to ask some one to be quiet please.

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crikeybill · 10/11/2013 00:12

I am currently lying wide awake on a camp bed in a children's ward. Dd was admitted this morning after having two massive seizures. She is trying to sleep its gone midnight.

The teenager opposite is on oxygen every hour which is very very noisy. She cant help that I get that. However to compensate for the noise of her oxygen she has the t.v turned up loud and is talking very loud to her sister who is staying with her. She is the only one on the ward with her lights and t.v on at this time. Her sister is giggling and taking pics so the flash is lighting the room up evrty five mins. The nurses aee aware as we aee right outside the station.

Aibu to ask her to please turn it down and lower her voice so I can sleep. Is that bad ?

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Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:13

YANBU at all

And I wish your DD a speedy recovery

SeaSickSal · 10/11/2013 00:17

Go and speak to the nurse, it's her responsibility to deal with it. If the girl needs to watch tv they can give her earphones. It's totally inappropriate at this time of night on a children's ward. The nurse is being crap not dealing with it without being pushed. This girl should be resting too.

Dubjackeen · 10/11/2013 00:18

YANBU. Hope your little girl makes a speedy recovery. Definitely do ask, you must be exhausted.

Omnishamble · 10/11/2013 00:21

Just remind me which of you is the ill one ......

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crikeybill · 10/11/2013 00:26

meaning omnishamble ?
my dd is the ill one as well as the teen . my dd cant sleep and is upset and disorientated. i dont mind the oxygen noise but the t.v and talking ?

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SecretWitch · 10/11/2013 00:31

Honey, YANBU. I am sorry you are going through this. So scary for you both. Please look after yourself. Let us know how things turn out Flowers

AgentZigzag · 10/11/2013 00:32

'Just remind me which of you is the ill one ......'

No need, if that means what I think it means.

I know the teenager is ill as well, but it's not sleepover, half twelve is beyond taking the piss or her reasonably distracting herself in a place she doesn't want to be in.

Lots of sympathy for you, I've had to stay in with DD when she's had asthma problems, it's like a nightmare/horror film state of fear/imprisonment.

Hope your DD is on the mend soon

WorraLiberty · 10/11/2013 00:34

I don't even know why you're asking??

It's a no brainer at gone midnight Confused

I wish your DC better Thanks

THERhubarb · 10/11/2013 00:36

Difficult. The teen might have had a rubbish diagnosis but yes, there are more than her on the ward. Earphones would be good. Or you could approach her, give her a hug and just say that you love what she is watching but your dd is also very ill and could she turn it down and perhaps in return you could bake her a lovely cake for tomorrow? Community spirit is very important I feel in these circumstances. A bit of give and take goes a long way.

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crikeybill · 10/11/2013 00:39

thanks. i know the teen is ill i really really do, i emptied her bin and got her some water earlier. she has been on her own most of the day and was excitable when her sister turned up so ive given her some time but come on !
just spoke to nurses who said once her oxygen goes off at 1am they will ask her to turn it down but they cant force her to sleep.....
yeah i guess so but bloody hell!

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crikeybill · 10/11/2013 00:40

oxygen goes back on at 2 mind you :(

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AgentZigzag · 10/11/2013 00:46

It's just the extra stress on top of maxed out stress levels you can be doing without.

At least they've given you an end time ish.

ShakeRattleNRoll · 10/11/2013 01:08

Have a word

WalkingtoFarAhead · 10/11/2013 01:11

Have a word.

I am usually on either a children's ward with either DD1 or DD2 or an adults ward for myself. If there is a noisy patient they usually get told about the noise they are making.

Hope your DD is better soon.

custardo · 10/11/2013 01:17

i'd go ut and buy some cheap earphones and earplugs if you are going to be in there a few nights

SeaSickSal · 10/11/2013 01:18

I'm really shocked by that. If the nurses aren't going to ask her to keep it down they should move her to a private room.

Sunnysummer · 10/11/2013 03:23

YANBU. You specifically said in your OP that your DD (who is sick, just as the teenager) is trying to sleep but having trouble - and even if she were asleep, you would be reasonable to want to get sleep to be a supportive parent tomorrow.

Rather than talk directly with the girl, especially as you are probably all tired and emotional, could you have a word with the nurses? Then if they still aren't quiet you can go around and have a word yourself without having to talk multiple times. They might also have a better sense of her current situation, and whether the TV and her sister might be the only thing keeping her afloat right now, and be sensitive to that.

We had a similar issue when DS was in hospital at 6 months with breathing issues, it adds extra stress to an already tricky situation. Thanks for you and DD

holidaysarenice · 10/11/2013 04:16

I've been in both positions, the noisy person and the trying to sleep! They both suck.

Tbh as the noisy one I was terrified, nervous and it was all that was stopping me breaking down. As the one trying to sleep I understood the sheer hell the noisy one cud be going through.

Pull your curtains round, snuggle in to your daughter and she'll drift off hopefully if she's had a big day.

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