Actually no you prick it's NOT ok to text me and cancel

[BitsinTatters]

So AIBU? Because I'm about to rant on here rather than say a single thing to him.

My ex text me yesterday afternoon saying he can't have dd this weekend as some thing had come up and he was unable to have her.

So DD (7) is pretty upset TBH. I've tried to distract etc

Found out its because he's gone away for a romantic weekend with his girl friend.

That's fine.

But why WHY did he take me to court and cost me thousands of pounds to gain access to a child he never wanted - force me to go through months of Cafcass evaluation (who recommended no direct contact) followed by supervised contact at a contact centre an hours drive from me - followed by months of ME having to supervise - followed by 2 hourly contact sessions taking 4 years to build up to over night contact.

During that time I was pregnant & then breast feeding a tiny baby while still dealing with his bull shit.

And it's not jealously btw. Seriously I have no feelings for this guy other than disgust. I left him, abusive arse (history of DV)

Poor DD :( he treats her like a fucking game to pick up and play with.

So I shall say nothing to him. As its pointless. But AIBU to be cross.

RevelsRoulette said it all. He's a dick, a small insignificant one at that.

Thank you everyone :) it smacks of his arrogance he thinks I believe what he says.

Treat fir you both today, definitely.

In future don't tell her about access visits until you know for sure he is turning up.

I would let him know you know tbh.

Do the same thing to him next time he had dc! When he's coming to drop her back off to you text him and tell him something has come up and he'll have to have her another night. See how he likes being dictated to.

It's not ok and it's not fine. I would feel exactly the same. I would be very upset for my Dd too. Your Dd will learn what he is like and draw her own conclusions without any help from you. He is a selfish git and god knows why he put you through all that rubbish to gain access.

What an arse (him not you). Hope your dd has cheered up and you've had a nice time together

Dd is taking part in parade from the church to the war memorial today with her beaver troop. Felt so proud dropping her off. They all looked so proud and smart.

Feel honoured to have such an amazing kid. Looking forwar to going back in a bit to see the parade. He missed out on that. His loss.