I think remembrance is very very important indeed, I take issue with Remembrance and it being used to 'sell' various dubious policies.
I have always fond it very hard to express this in RL because a. I am grateful for the sacrifices made by servicemen and women and would hate to offend anybody who is actively serving now or did in the past b. I would be mortified to offend anybody who lost a loved one in any war and c. because I am German. Born 20 odd years after the end of WW2 and I know that history is far more complex than 'It was the Germans wot did it', but still.
I remember ALL the dead, on all sides; usually the poor and those who had little choice but to serve, be that because they were conscripted or 'forced' by social circumstances. Some of them will have died doing their duty, some of them during truly heroic acts, but ALL of them just died
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