to go to yoga one evening a week

[quiltmum]

I am in the process of getting divorced, and the he is saying that i have been irresponsible and selfish by going to yoga once a week, as i also have a hobby which means i go out once a month in an evening. I have always done my quilting after dc's have gone to bed. He is complaining about the impact it has had on family life.

He is being treated for depression since 2003 and can be quite scary at times. We are going through mediation to avoid the courts and he is now demanding i pay him out by he end of the month.

Sorry there are lots of issues here.

I am the bread winner here and there is a huge disparity in what we have each contributed to house hold finances over the years. I have paid £80k + to house hold finances and he has paid £11k. I have also done majority of parenting as he has spent huge amounts of time in bed.

I am feeling bullied.

You are being bullied. He's an arse.

you are being bullied

hold firm

Not only is not unreasonable to have a hobby, it is of a positive mental health benefit. As yoga is ALSO exercise, there is not a judge in this land that would begrudge you those things. If he's gonna be a tit , saving money avoiding court may not be in your best interest.
Think carefully about what you do next.

All the best

He is also demanding 50/50 access for the children, with him having them 3 weekends out of 4. He is on medication for depression,depression could i get the gp to say he is unfit to look after the children