AIBU about my mum's behaviour?

[BabyMummy29]

My mum is constantly causing bother - she tittle-tattles to family members about others, then forgets what she has told to whom.

4 years ago, when I divorced she totally took XH's side - giving him thousands of pounds, taking him out for meals etc etc and giving me absolutely nothing.

This has continued so much so that I just about tolerate her presence.

She has now had an accident and expects me to be at her beck and call for hospital appointments etc even though I work full time and would need to take time off.

AIBU in thinking she has a bloody nerve?

josephine I think our mothers were separated at birth!!

I'm really glad I did this thread (first I've ever started) as it's made me realise that unfortunately I am not alone.

My mother does the martyr thing too. If she hasn't had an illness, then it doesn't exist and is dismissed as "a piece of nonsense"

The more people I talk to about her, the odder they think she is, so I think I'm gradually winning.

I really have no interest in building bridges or making things better between us as, quite honestly, why would I want to have anything to do with such an awful person.

Baby - I feel for you lol. xxxx

Can you be nice and polite to her but keep contact to the basics ie) one appointment a fortnight.

Unfortunately I find it very hard to forgive/forget some of the nasty vitriolic things she has said to or about me.

At times she has spoken to me as if I was 6 years old.

This has been going on for about 4 years now and she always promises she will change but doesn't.

I have a new DP now and he doesn't like to see me getting annoyed about this.

May I suggest you take a look at the 'Stately Homes' thread in Relationships, there is a lot of support and very good advice over there.

My thoughts is that you should never rely on inheritance or do something to get it. You cannot rely on what will or will not happen. All you can do is act with integrity now. She sounds dreadful. You don't need that toxic behaviour in your life.