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I know I am being Ott but,

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Jes8 · 09/11/2013 16:36

Is it wrong to be annoyed that every present idea that I had for my daughter's 18th Birthday has been taken by family members and I now can not think of anything to buy ?I want to buy something that will remind her of her birthday in years to come.

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Badmumof3 · 09/11/2013 16:41

That is really annoying, but use it as an opportunity to get something really special. How about a beautiful piece of jewellery that she will cherish forever and/or get theatre or concert tickets for something she will love and make a memory together.

Writerwannabe83 · 09/11/2013 16:51

If it helps I can't remember a single present I got for my 18th....
I'm sure my parents and family went to extreme measures to get me something special that I'd treasure and cherish forever because it was my 'Special Birthday' but it was obviously wasted effort Smile

I do remember the party I had though - a huge function room, DJ, food, balloons, decorations, banners, etc - it was BRILLIANT!!!! I had so many friends and family there, it was just amazing, one of the most fantastic nights of my life. I can remember exactly what I wore, exactly how I had my hair, exactly who was there and the songs we danced to etc - that definitely formed a memory I'll always remember.

Is she having a party??

Strumpetron · 09/11/2013 16:56

I would be annoyed too but just think how happy she'll be that she's got so many things to enjoy.

I'd take it as an opportunity to get her something to really cherish.

On my 18th my dad gave me a charm bracelet which I can't even wear because it means so much to me.

On my 21st my mum and dad gave me this: scontent-b-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc3/419123_10151250601663885_1258296322_n.jpg (my dad isn't my real dad, he died) and it means so much to me.

I guess what I'm trying to say is all these things she wants will be insignificant to her if you find something she can cherish and remember forever, not something that's ridiculously expensive x

Strumpetron · 09/11/2013 17:02

sorry scontent-b-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc3/419123_10151250601663885_1258296322_n.jpg

what is she into OP, like could you get her a nice piece of jewellery or something?

or does she drive.. maybe driving lessons if she doesnt?

FortyFacedFuckers · 09/11/2013 17:09

I got a pilot lesson for my 18th how about something like that?

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Jes8 · 09/11/2013 17:49

Thankyou all for your replies and Strumpetron ,you brought a tear to my eye.I lost my Dad 13 years ago so I know how special your bracelet is to you

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MrsWedgeAntilles · 09/11/2013 17:56

OP, my parents got me a watch for my 18th. I've worn it every day until I became a nurse and couldn't wear it at work. It wasn't a particularly spectacular watch but I love it because my parents gave it to me for a special occasion in my life.
Just buy her something, the giving of the gift will make it significant.

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Jes8 · 09/11/2013 17:58

Oops messed up. Meant to say your necklace and message too which is a lovely gift and something you will cherish forever.

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SkinnybitchWannabe · 09/11/2013 18:00

I think jewelery is a great idea.
I got a lovely gold bracelet for my 18th. 20 years later Im still wearing it.

Strumpetron · 09/11/2013 18:12

jes you're right it's so so precious to me, even though it wasn't expensive at all. Would she appreciate something like that do you think?

There's all sorts you could get that isn't too expensive, a nice piece of well thought out jewellery with a nice meaningful message would be appreciated by most 18 year olds I think!

ruby1234 · 09/11/2013 18:23

I have a 'Nomination' bracelet, when you buy it all the links are blanks, but you can buy extra links depicting important things, I have links with my children's names, some lovely heart ones my DH bought for me, a USA flag to remind me of our Silver Wedding holiday. You can get links with pretty much anything on them.

You could buy her the bracelet with an 18 link, and add to it over the years with links for special things.

I love my bracelet.

Strumpetron · 09/11/2013 18:28

ruby that's a nice idea.

I like the Thomas Sabo ones or Links of London

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Jes8 · 09/11/2013 21:30

Thankyou again for your ideas.I will either buy her a watch or the Nomination bracelet.I originally wanted to buy her a Pandora one so that I could buy her a charm for future special occasions but another family member ,who she is not close to, is giving her that.I wanted to buy her something which in future years would be an item that would have sentimental value to her.I too have a Nomination bracelet which means alot to me as each charm reflects a different event in my life.

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Strumpetron · 09/11/2013 21:44

The pandora ones aren't as popular anymore and there's sooo many fakes or similar looking ones it's unreal.

I'm sure you'll find something lovely OP, let us know how it goes! hope she has a lovely day

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Jes8 · 09/11/2013 22:03

Strumpetron your replies and all the other replies have helped me.I am over the Pandora thing now and will buy her something special and also take her out for the day as a family.Often memories last longer than gifts and I want her to remember her birthday as a day filled with love and fun

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WholeNutt · 09/11/2013 22:12

What about a spa day just the 2 of you? A nice pamper, glass of bubbles and lunch. I think a memory is more important than any gift.

I remember being away for my 20th birthday I was homesick as it was my first away and I received a card from my brother it said. 'Wherever you are on your special day, take a moment to remember it' I will never forget where I was and that is thanks to my lovely brothers words.

I hope she has a wonderful day!

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