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To not give sponsorship to neighbours for doing some event?

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AtticusMcPlatypus · 08/11/2013 17:59

Just got home from work the other evening and was unloading the car in the pouring rain when the daughter of a neighbour came over and asked me if I would sponsor her parents to both have mohican hairstyles in aid of some woman who is ill. I asked her who she was and she couldn't remember her name and also didn't know what was wrong with her. I told her to come back another time as it was pissing down and I wanted to get inside. I really don't mind giving to charity, but I like to give to ones of my choosing. I'm also really skint at the moment. Anyway, haven't heard anymore and thought they'd obviously forgotten about it when the doorbell rang this afternoon and the father was stood on the doorstep asking again. I should have told him that I didn't want to sponsor them for something I know nothing about (the sponsor form he had in his hand was a handwritten scrappy piece of paper) but instead I said i didn't have any cash and to call again later. Hopefully DH will be in and he can deal with it! I might add that they often come round asking for money for something or other and I have given to things that I have been aware of in the past. AIBU to say no? It is probably genuine and they are having their heads shaved bloody hell they are going to look awful but I don't like the assumption that I will give. Much prefer to choose who I give my money to.

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood · 08/11/2013 18:01

I'd just say no. If they come round again, give them 50p (since you've only fobbed them off and it will at least get rid of them) and then refuse to ever give money again.

blahblahblah2014 · 08/11/2013 18:06

Just give them £3-£5 - It's for charity, it wont break the bank and will stop you looking a scrouge

BackforGood · 08/11/2013 18:10

YANBU to say 'no thanks' but YABU to keep telling them to come back if you don't want to sponsor them.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 08/11/2013 18:14

If you want to be sure of genuinely giving to charity in this case if you're not sure you can trust them I would tell a white lie. "Sorry, I don't have any spare cash at the moment but if you let me know the charity you're collecting for then as soon as I get paid I'll do a little online donation."

Justforlaughs · 08/11/2013 18:18

I think that as you told her to come back and you implied to the father that you would be prepared to sponsor them if he came back when you had some money to hand that YABU.
If you had just said no in the first place then you wouldn;t have been unreasonable

AtticusMcPlatypus · 08/11/2013 19:15

I actually don't have £3-£5 at the mo - serious cashflow crisis and am having to watch every penny. I think that if they knock again hopefully DH will answer but if not, I'll be honest and say that I am having to watch my spending so can only afford a quid. No doubt the DC will need donations for Children In Need next week which I would far rather give to. To be honest, I don't really have a lot to do with them anyway, they are not friends so I don't feel too guilty.

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