calm me calm me!

[LimitedEditionLady]

Calm me please!how do you calm you nerves example for an interview,for a test.Any useful tips for me?

Go for a brisk walk beforehand?

Phone your Mum? (If you have a nice Mum)

Be as prepared as you possibly can?

Listen to some music?

Have you tried any breathing techniques? Aromatherapy oils like lavender and chamomile are very soothing.

I put my head down and remind myself to breathe. Focussing on the in and out gives my brain less time to overload on whatever's getting to me.

Breathing.

Breathe in for 8 and out for 10.

A person I know who sees a sports psychologist was told to give the nerves a little window of time, - can't remember how long - then refuse to entertain them after that. Just do it. (the test/ competition) good luck!

Thanks for quick replies!the breathing sounds good,dya think people will notice me doing such breathing?

Yesterday-oh no cant ring my mum but good idea for distraction,

I learned very simple meditation techniques using a website called get me some head space. It helped me with my stress levels and improved my sleep no end.

Rescue remedy and controlled breathing.

What is rescue remedy?

Plan what you are going to do when you walk into the room.

For example, sit down, get out pens, check to see where the clock is or shake hands with interviewer and say, "Thank you for seeing me. My name's LimitedEdition". The planning will help the panic.

AND

Push back slightly in your chair so you can feel it on your back. Apparently we are all calmed by knowing that something is protecting our back, so we can't be attacked from behind. It works.

Rescue Remedy is brandy with some flower gubinns in. Most jobs I have gone for might not be happy to smell brandy on my breath so don't do that.

Use a different part of your brain. I find Sudoku means I can't dwell on fear (phobia of flying, which I have managed well recently).

Thanks guys,i do appreciate this.I feel nervy already and im scared my mind will go blank.i think im going to be taking deep breaths like im in labour at this rate!

I found some mindfulness techniques helpful - acknowledge the nerves but kind of visualise them as boulders in a river, pass yourself (the river) over the boulders (the nerves). surprisingly effective and no funny panting (breathing techniques don't really work for me,I just feel strange)

Buy some calms

Or I take one of my prescription diazepam

For presentations or interviews I also find that having 5 (or however many dependant on the thing) points to reach as waypoints help - if I am floundering I jump a waypoint, rather than have a spiel that I can fall over and get stuck on.

I thoughy calms but i think im a bit late for calms.arent there a lot of wise people out there?i like the river thing

I was always told NOT to plan what to say, as it makes it sound staged and unnatural. I never even think past hello, and this in itself helped me with nerves. And don't fear silence, better to sit smiling silently at them than run your mouth saying any old garbage to fill the void.