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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to have told her she doesn't own the road

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popmusic84 · 07/11/2013 13:20

So I was visiting a friend. I was about to park outside a neighbours house. No where near dropped kerbs etc.
The neighbour came out of the house and asked me to move as she needed the space.
I agreed to move but pointed out that as its a public road I am actually within my rights to park there.
Wibu?

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VodkaJelly · 07/11/2013 13:21

You were being unreasonable agreeing to move. If you have parked without obstructing anyone or anything then you shouldnt have moved.

This woman is obviously entitled and used to making people move for her and you have played into that.

I would have refused and carried on about my business. But then i am bloody minded.

jacks365 · 07/11/2013 13:21

Yabu to have moved your car from somewhere you were legally entitled to park. Ywnbu to point it out to her.

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popmusic84 · 07/11/2013 13:33

I know. Part of me wanted to refuse but we have just got a new (well newish) car and I guess I was concerned she might damage it.
The other annoying thing was that when I left the space outside her house was stil empty. Grr.

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PukingCat · 07/11/2013 13:41

There was a thread about this recently, where the op didn't want people parking outside her house and said that anyone who did was a selfish cunt! Well, neighbours who parked outside her house on a public road were selfish cunts, visitors . . . she refused to answer the question all the way through the thread as to where they parked and if they were selfish cunts too.

Personally i think people who are bothered by others parking on public roads outside their house probably have issues and should get help. Its really not logical.

What did she say op when you pointed out that its your right to park there.

Doodledumdums · 07/11/2013 13:45

YABU- You shouldn't have moved! Though I understand your concern seeing as you have a new car.

I hate people like this, if you want to park outside your house then get a house with a drive way or if you can't afford a house with a drive way then get a flat with a parking space. The road outside your house does not belong to you, tough luck!

bolderdash · 07/11/2013 13:45

My ndn does that. It's so selfish. Where do they park when they visit someone?

onedogandababy · 07/11/2013 13:48

Ywnbu. The number of people who are so misinformed that they believe they actually purchased a chunk of public highway along with their house never ceases to amaze me.
My neighbour goes so far as to think she also owns the pavement - at least I assume that's why they fling our bin back in front of our garden when bin men leave it in the 'wrong' place. Makes us

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popmusic84 · 07/11/2013 13:48

They have a driveway with 2 cars already parked there.

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FraidyCat · 07/11/2013 13:51

If someone wanted me to do something that wasn't a lot of trouble, I would just do it, regardless of my "rights." I can be too mild-mannered for my own good though.

Joysmum · 07/11/2013 13:58

I'd have asked why, there might have been a delivery expected or any other number if reasons. I see no problem with doing small things to make a big difference.

However, if there wasn't a good reason I might not have been so generous although I would be mindful of making things awkward for my friend who has to live there.

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popmusic84 · 07/11/2013 14:25

She saisd she had a visitor coming so needed the space.

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LimitedEditionLady · 08/11/2013 07:54

Yrs i remember the thread,i completely understand what the op was sayibg and she did answer?

Eliza22 · 08/11/2013 08:32

Were you blocking access to her driveway, in any way?

SanityClause · 08/11/2013 08:43

I used to live in a cul de sac, and found that people there were very possessive of the space in front of their own property.

In another house we lived in, we had no road access at all - our front door opened out onto a footpath. We had to park round the corner, in a little mews terrace. We often had to knock on doors to ask people to move, so we could get out, and just as often, had to move for others. Everyone was very jolly about it, and there was a lovely friendly atmosphere among the neighbours.

If I can avoid parking outside the house of someone I don't know, I will do so, but if that is the only choice, then I will park there. I think, like you, I would have moved if someone had asked me to.

Vix1980 · 08/11/2013 08:48

My neighbour does this constantly to anyone who dares park in front of her house she has now even taken to parking her daughters car in her space when she leaves, and when she returns in the evening will move her daughters car to park her own there

This is after the council wrote to her to tell her to stop putting her wheely bin in the space to save it for her. Same neighbour thinks nothing of parking acros our drive whenever she needs to!!

YWBU to move though! fair enough if shes having a delivery etc, but just for a visitor, then no, i wouldnt have moved.

justmatureenough2bdad · 08/11/2013 09:03

at this Yabu to have moved your car from somewhere you were legally entitled to park

surely moving from somewhere you are entitled to park at the request of someone is very very reasonable!

Also, just to be pedantic; it is possible for roads to not be "public"...it may be a "public right of way", but privately maintained and therefore parking is at the discretion of the owner(s)

Xfirefly · 08/11/2013 09:15

you should have stayed put! I hate hate hate this! people have no right to own public road!

I've had so many problems over the years with these kinds of people. when I visited OH when he lived at home I parked on the public road and was confronted by a neighbor demanding I moved as 'that's where son parks' . I refused and then he threatened to hit me with his walking stick ( seriously). He was soon grovelling when OH came out and gave him a mouthful. I really can't understand how people can get so upset over parking.

stand your ground, you pay road tax and have the right to park there.

ashamed to say my dad is quite possesive of a space outside his house....

intitgrand · 08/11/2013 09:55

My parents do this too, but they doown the road outside their house, there is a vehicular ROW but each house owns the road in front

CSIJanner · 08/11/2013 10:00

If she had a visitor coming and her cars were on the drive, then she wasn't gong anywhere and her guests could park across her drive?

ormirian · 08/11/2013 10:05

It's a PITA not having off-street parking. But most of us have been there at some time in their lives. It requires give and take and no... she DOES NOT own the road.

I don't blame you for moving as there is no need for unneccessary aggro but the woman is clearly a nutter and will come up against someone less amenable than you one of these days.

CSIJanner · 08/11/2013 10:05

Actually, reading above, my father (and the properties in his street) do actually own half of the back lane behind their properties to the middle gully. My father has only enforced it once when I was a child and we played in the back with the other children. There were a few near misses as young lads showing off to their young ladies decided to speed up and down the cobbles. He pulled his car until the half way point, they called the police, the police backed him up and then bollocked them for speeding down a narrow backlane. Job done!

ormirian · 08/11/2013 10:11

I think asking someone to move their car so that you can park outside your house could be quite a reasonable thing to do.... if you give a good reason, ie you are expecting a delivery or your elderly parents are visiting soon and they can't walk far. And even then you ask politely and apologetically 'I hope you don't mind me asking but it would be really helpful if...... etc'

Same way I can understand why people ride their bikes on the pavement when the road is busy and dangerous and the pavement is quite wide. No problem with that regardless of whether it's against the law. Perfectly reasonable IMO. BUT only if they behave reasonably, cycle at a sensible, and carefully, and don't ring their bell in a preromptory fashion and expect you to hop out of the way when they approaching from behind!!!!!

Being arsey and demanding does no-one any favours.

Snoopingforsoup · 08/11/2013 10:16

If you're paying for a parking permit, and the street is taken up with visitors and you have a car full of kids and shopping, it's bloody irritating to have to park two streets away. If it's not a controlled parking zone, and if you have road tax, the space is yours.
I would have asked her reasons for asking you to move.

Snoopingforsoup · 08/11/2013 10:26

Oh! You did ask her reasons. I would have pointed out another reasonable space and stayed put, maybe her visitor is elderly or disabled? I would hope that's her reason and not just that she wanted to patrol her patch.
I get annoyed when I can't park near the front door I have to confess. It costs a lot per year to park a car in our street and the amount of spaces for the residents isn't great, it gets annoying if you're not parked by 5:30pm, you have to look in another street and car crime is a big problem here. We're all a bit tetchy about it. Carrying your shopping/sleeping children two roads on your own is no fun!

CrapBag · 08/11/2013 10:30

YABU because you moved. YANBU because you said what you did.

People in my street are like this. As long as I am near my house, I don't have to be right outside, and I am the only one with young children here. Other people, nope, they will happily take up 2 spaces or park on your bumper, partly blocking a sideroad just be right outside their own house even when there is a space 1 or 2 cars down! Get a life people!!!

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