to not leave DD in Dsis' care?

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When her own 3yo DS managed to set a teatowel on fire (somehow turned the hob on), and managed to let himself out of the house and walk around the block before she noticed?

Yet she is asking to have my dd overnight!?

up to you I suppose. My ds managed to get out of our house once, maybe I should call ss and let them know

She isn't likely to make that mistake again is she!?

Are you a perfect parent op?

I wouldn't. Unless DD is a teenager or something.

Not saying im a perfect parent at all. However my dds safety is paramount and she isnt allowed in the kitchen unsupervised, and it isnt possible for her to let herself out of the house.

I take precautions to keep her safe from harm. I woud feel, by letting her stay at DSis' that she would be kept as safe.

wouldnt

Also, "she isnt likely to make that mistake again" is a piss poor response. Things dont have to happen once to become something to look out for. Her house opens directly onto the street, her toddler could quite easily have got.onto the road.

ok so are you actually asking whether you should allow your dd to stay with her overnight or are you asking for a response to her allowing her ds to perform kitchen pyrotechnics and escape? would my horror at her apparent neglectful parenting be a "piss poor response" or would it be acceptable?

So pay for childcare then!

It's a 'piss poor' thread to be honest, you know what your answer is already!!

If you're not comfortable with it then don't do it.

Or if it's not a childcare thing just say no?

What is it with everyone nagging to "have children overnight"? We can't GIVE our two away! Is it just to prove a point about being trustworthy?

Anyway, it's enough of an imposition that it should be easy enough for you to brush it off - say DD is pushing boundaries at the mo, or something - and you need her to stay with you.

It isnt about childcare, I pay for childcare when needed.

My sis wants dd overnight but I feel that she would be unsafe there for the reasons listed. AIBU to say no because of these reasons?

YANBU. A few PO on this thread I think!

WhatsPO?

Don't tell her those are the reasons, or your DSis will start testing her/your own boundaries!

OP - I think any possible advantage of leaving your daughter overnight (ie a having a night to yourself) would be heavily outweighed by the anxiety you would feel all evening. There is no shame in saying to your sister, or anyone else, that you don't feel comfortable with leaving your daughter for overnight stays yet. I would change the criteria around and just acknowledge that you are only comfortable leaving your vulnerable young child with people whose judgement and care you have complete faith in.

RenterNomad - I can't give mine away either, I'm a little jealous of all these people with offers of a night off!

OP - YANBU at all, if you are worried about DDs safety then you shouldn't send her. I would be careful how you word it with Dsis though, maybe just say you aren't comfortable with her going away from you over night, rather than saying you are worried Dsis can't look after her properly.