To have some homemade pate at a restaurant on my birthday?

[lola0106]

I must admit I haven't stuck to a lot of the 'pregnancy rules' but I have avoided pate, even though I'm really craving it, because someone really made me worry about it! I will be 30 weeks on my birthday and DH is taking me to a really nice restaurant where they do an amazing homemade pate with crusty bread... AIBU to have it and not feel guilty?

I wouldn't.

If you've avoided it so far-a few more weeks won't hurt!

I wouldn't, despite being very tempted when I was pregnant. The night I came home from hospital OH made me a 3 course meal, pate starter with rare steak main, and a bottle of wine. Was amazing and so worth the wait.

No yanbu if you are fine with taking the risk of listeria causing your baby to be stillborn.
Do you think the "rules" are there to spoil your fun?

i would! as a one-off i'm sure it won't hurt

But if OP isn't eating pate atm, why would pate at a restaurant be advisable?

If you trust whoever is making it then yanbu. I ate paté during both my pregnancies if I had either made it myself or in certain restaurants which i knew well.

I wouldnt call pate homemade if the restaurant made it.You just dont know what hygiene standards there are there.Its not worth the risk.I love pate but did abstain during pregnancy.Some things just are not worth the risk.

I don't think it's worth it; you'll be eating it for 5 minutes but you might wonder if it's done any harm for the next ten weeks.

Very sorry for your loss strikeuptheband. And bazinga too.

I would, and did, eat everything on the 'banned' list happily. The only food poisoning I've ever had in my life was from a McDonalds burger, and my dad was nearly hospitalised once from a dodgy burger van purchase, neither of which would be explicitly banned. My point is that the food preparation and hygiene standards will have a much greater impact on the total risk than the intrinsic risk of any specific product. In a nice hotel that I wa sfamiliar with and where I perhaps knew some of the staff and the general ethic of the place, I'd eat pate without a second thought.

Would 20 stories here telling you it was fine soothe you if it caused problems?

If there were 20 posters saying it wasn't would it stop you.

MN is amazing. But this is one of those low risk high stakes situations. MN can't tell you what to do with your body or that something will be safe.

I went out with a group of friends at about 30 weeks pregnant to a fab Argentine restaurant where is all about the beef!. Two of us were due on the same day. I, having had a stillbirth and an m/c, had chicken, as I didn't dare have rare beef and it seemed a crying shame to et the delicious looking meat well done. The other wife of a Dr, with trouble-free pregnancies, ate a rare steak with relish. Both our sons are fine, but I would never have forgiven myself, especially due to previous losses, if I had deliberately done something which had a negative impact on my Baby. My well-trained DH plies me with rare meat, sushi and Champagne when I return from hospital.

Thank you everyone. Sorry for the losses on the thread it's nice to hear everyone's opinions/ experiences. Think I will give the pate a miss and get DH to spoil me once baby is here!

I had pate once a week through 3 pregnancies. My babies all arrived safe and well. I know several people who stuck to every single rule of pregnancy and still devastatingly tragically didn't bring home their babies.
In the scheme of things, pâté is a small risk and actually, they used to tell you to eat pâté and liver etc when pregnant 30 years or so ago. The human race seems to have carried on regardless.