Do you judge people who are online *all* the time?

[MokuMoku]

I know I shouldn't but I do.

Most of my friends are online a bit and I think that is totally normal but I have one friend who is on level 368 of Candy Crush. That cannot be normal can it?

I have another friend who I love but she is on Facebook all day. She loves sharing things like gluten-free pumpkin cookie recipes or 101 ways apple cider vinegar can cure a cold. She also enters a lot of competitions. It wouldn't bother me but then she writes about how her house is always a mess and her husband can't understand why and how she is broke but far too busy to get a part-time job. I am starting to really worry about her. I know whenever I log onto Facbook at any time of day there will be a tonne of posts from her. Can you be addicted to Facebook?

I know it is people's own business what they do but it's when they start moaning about how they have no time. Can you say to them that maybe if they stepped away from the computer for an hour or so they might be able to get stuff done?

Well, if her house is always a mess and she can't understand why, she's stupid.

So, yes, if she was someone I knew I'd say 'well, get off Facebook for 2 minutes and clean it'.

But I hate people who complain about not having any time when they obviously have all the time in the world for things they actually want to do.

I'm of l 368 tbh

I'm online a lot, but mainly because my current degree module is all online with no books (thanks for the innovation, Open University) so I'm probably on FB more than I was last year when it was all old fashioned book-learnin'! However, I reckon I average about 2 status updates a week - I usually use FB as a tool to chat to my fellow students and bounce around whet we're working on.

People who spend time whining about how busy they are, rather than just getting on and doing it give me the rage though. I had colleagues who did this and I used to sit there (with my head down working) and grind my teeth!

Is your friend feeling lonely and trying to reach out socially? I know people who say FB makes them feel more connected and less isolated?

I post on here loads... so no just wish I had more time.

I judge myself for spending too much time online one way or another.Working on getting mn to ban me! Internet is very addictive. Others - have no idea how much time they spend.

Eh, I'm online all day and night - web-based job + being a nerd means I'm usually within 1ft of a web-enabled device - but even I manage to put my phone down to clean the kitchen! Maybe she needs to look up UFYH, for internet-enabled prodding to do the housework.

OTOH, can't be having with facebook.

I was going to write a long reply to this, but I've got to get back to Candy Crush. Level 450 won't complete itself, you know!

Level 421 yes I am that sad.

I would probably ignore the whining and not say anything, if you want to be friends. Some people just moan for something to say.

If the fb feeds bother you, hide that person from your updates.

Otherwise, they could be just having a patch where that seems the most important thing. I know it's hard to stop with fb and games at times. 2 weeks holiday with no Internet solved a lot of issues for me, just candy crush now, and this level is so hard I might impose a ban to see if I can get over it!

I am online a lot, BTW, before someone comes and points out I'm online a lot.

But I also do this for a living and there's plenty of time I'm not online too.

I'm online all the time because I'm breastfeeding a hungry 6-week-old baby. I can read MN and FB one-handed but I need 2 hands and a better attention span to read a book. Judge away.

Since I'm addicted to MN I see no reason why a shallow sad git someone with less discrimination about where she spends her online life than us Vipers might not be addicted to FB.

No I wouldn't judge, I have too much going on to pay any attention to how others choose to spend their time. Maybe I should. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. :)

I was just about to say about breastfeeding, my children fed soooooo much but I could Facebook at the same time to keep me sane......and yet my house was a mess and I was busy all the time feeding.... But you can't do house work with a baby attached to a boob so why not go online?!

Yes, but all her kids are school-aged so she is free all day. I do worry that she is lonely, maybe even depressed. Is there any way to block the spam posts but leave the real comments?

My husband got to around level 180 on Candy Crush and gave up. He is addicted to a different game now, something about dragons. He also complains about how busy he is and how he has no time to himself. .

I'm online a bit but I don't complain about the other stuff.

I think you can be addicted, but of course, not everyone who uses the internet a lot is. I think I was, even though I wasn't on for the long periods you talk about.

If you can't leave it alone, if you get defensive about it, if it stops you engaging with people who are in the room with you, of you don't feel you have control of it, if you are neglecting other things you have to do - that's addiction, IMO.

The only time I've been online All The Time has been when depression was at its worst. Started in my teens. It's because I couldn't see the point in anything, be it looking after myself, or my surroundings, or spending time with friends, because my self esteem was zilch.

So it may be that you are right to be worrying. :(

Seriously, I don't notice most people but whenever you pop on to FB there are another 20 posts and they are literally spaced out all through the day not just say a burst of activity at lunchtime.

Ms level 368 has 4 kids, 2 at home but the youngest is a toddler. From her FB photos her house is really tidy. How does she do it? I am sick with jealousy.

Unless it is the toddler who is a candy crush genius. Maybe that's how she does it.

Level 461 here lol and I only popped on here while I wait on someone sending me a life.

All my things that need done are done, toddler is having quiet time beside me and I'm due next week so this is the calm before the storm

I do make a point of staying offline until afternoon tho.

I judge myself for being online all the time. I should be being more productive, we have loads of DIY to do.

However, when it comes to judging people on facebook there's one kind of facebook user I really dislike and those are the people who say they are never on facebook but are on there enough (be it sporadically) to feel like moaning about the way other people use it. It's as if they feel like the way they use it is the 'right' way and anyone not using it like them is somehow living a lesser kind of life. There are people too who say that they are 'thinking of giving up facebook' but, really, if they are having to think about it then they have no intention of doing so. They are pissed off with other people for using it so much but the reality is that they really enjoy the voyeurism involved in being able to see what everyone else is doing, and being able to judge them.

People who have facebook but don't ever update their info, while continually sneering about the things other people post, are the worst IMO.

I am online too much sometimes and play games but I hardly watch any TV.

Yes, I'm online most when I'm not in a Good Place. It's a lot less these days, and I get things done like sleeping, reading, and taking long baths.

It depends... I think younger people (millenials, in the jargon) are just used to doing everything online and are wired that way, its kind of hard to judge then for something which is so pervasive. Ditto people in certain types of jobs who more or less have to be.

For me the litmus test is whether you are allowing online time to eat into time that could be more productively spent doing something else or to diminish quality relationships with friends and family.

So if someone wants to spend four hours after their dcs are in bed playing CC who am I to judge. But I would judge someone who ignored a toddler for a long period of time because they were glued to their phone.

I am on level 455 of CandyCrush and I am desperately waiting for the next series of levels to be released (I am on a IPad). I LOVE it and do not consider my time wasted at all.

I don't have Facebook, do twitter or watch much TV but I MN quite a bit.

I guess it depends on what else you do. If you do little but go online then that's a bit sad but if you do it around lots of other things then I think it's ok.

Not boasting clearly, I am but I got to level 455 without ANY cheats or extra lives or skills. It was pure talent and hours and hours and hours and hours of frustration I want my kids to be proud of me.

My house is a mess and I fully understand why! Level 348 here!

I look like I am always on FB but I am really on mumsnet doing coursework on a different browser. FB works best on internet explorer and my uni website and all the links it sends me to work better on firefox. I always have both open though and am always logged in to FB.

I only do when certain people talk about being a...ahem..."perfect" parent, and judges other people's choices online. All.Day.Long.

I had several acquaintances who would really preach about attachment parenting philosophy and how by doing all the stereotypical traits of ap they were putting their children first, and actively followed blogs of a similar nature.

It just begs the question, though, if they were in fact putting their children at the centre of it all, WHY ARE THEY ONLINE ALL FLIPPING DAY?

So, yeah. Then and only then. You know, for being human like the rest of us did I judge them.