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AIBU?

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aibu to not try and regain this friendship?

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LimitedEditionLady · 05/11/2013 13:48

So me and "sam" used to be the best of friends.We did everything together socially,always on the phone and whatever we were doing we would consider each other.A couple of years ago there was a big fall out within our friends and at that time myself and another friend "sarah" for a number of reasons couldnt be friends anymore.At this time i fell pregnant so socialising was cut down for me for obvious reasons.Sam and Sarah stayed friends which is great but i started to notice that Sam was talking to me less and when i was inviting her to things she wouldnt come as Sarah wouldnt attend things i did.Contact seemed to just stop although i tried and tried to stay friends with Sam and as soon as i couldnt do the things i could before as i was pregnant she just stopped coming over.Kind of hurt me alot that my friend who i had spent a lot of my life with just walked out of my life when i was pregnant and has never cared to ask about my child unless ive bumped into her and its been kind of false.I know its the influence of Sarah that has forced her one way of another but how can she just walk away when id supported her through a lot of stuff in her life.
so we havent spoken for months and then the other day i saw her and she spoke to me and said how am i so i just politely said fine how are you and i think she was trying to arkwardly talk to me but i busied myself and moved away.Was i being unreasonable to walk away from her or should i have tried again?i know she mustve felt arkward as i clearly didnt want to talk to her and i feel guilty for that but shes hurt me no end.i eish i had my friend still but wouldnt i be a mug cos shes effectively picked sides when there need not have been sides.

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onepieceoflollipop · 05/11/2013 13:54

I think it is fine for you to just greet her politely but briefly as you did.
If she wishes to apologise/put things right/rekindle the friendship then she will need to make this clearer.

Mintyy · 05/11/2013 14:02

Are you sure you're old enough to have a baby?

PrimalLass · 05/11/2013 14:13

Are you sure you're old enough to have a baby?

That's not really fair. I'm certainly old enough to have had two, but have been badly hurt by a friend 'going off me' recently. It made me feel really vulnerable for months.

LimitedEditionLady · 05/11/2013 14:18

Mintyy say what you want you wont get a reaction out of me,have you even got a real friends or feelings?

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LimitedEditionLady · 05/11/2013 14:20

I suppose i reacted there but i do get fed up of people on here saying stupid things.

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