to ask DS's dad to have him more often and for longer?

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DS is 7

his dad has him alternate saturdays for the day 11am - 7pm, then the other weekends he has him friday 5pm through to saturday 7pm

but i think he should have at least one over night stay a week. i was thinking one week friday night - sat evening, then the next weekend friday night - sunday evening, and keep alternating it that way

does this sound reasonable? sounds awful but i need more of a break from DS, ex just gets the fun times and sends him back full of e numbers and hyper

I think you wanting a break and sending him to his dads will send all the wrong signals to him. Its hard enough to see his dad having other chidlren full time and his new siblings having their dad full time. It should be about what your DS wants not you wanting a break from him.

and tbh i chose weekends to make MY weekends a bit easier and have less dcs around, as got another dc and another one due in april, is that really bad of me .

i think every week end is a bit much if ex is working full time , if you wanted your week ends easier why keep having more kids , it will just get harder.

I think it's silly to say your ex works 8.30-6 and so can't have your son in the week. I'm sure a lot of mums work these hours, or longer, and they have to sort out childcare because that's what you do when you have responsibilities. What do his stepsons do during the week? Can your exes wife not care for your son until your ex gets home from work? Splitting weekends all year would be a nightmare in my opinion, and agree he'd feel pushed out with the new baby coming. Couldn't you do every other weekend Thursday after school until Monday morning to school and then on the other week a midweek overnight?

Why do you need more of a break from ds? It's not as if you will be free to do stuff without children around if he's with his Dad more if you have other children, you would likely be doing things that he could join in with.

I could understand it if there was something you wanted to do that wasn't suitable to include children in, but it sounds really mean to say you need a break from ds so that you can have more alone time with your 'new' children.