rant

[totallybitching]

So angry right now that oh has been accidentally hiding unopened post by putting it in the bookcase every Friday for 2 months!

Cue finding unpaid bills, cards from friends and relatives, missed parcel cards that I had complained about and very nearly getting my car insurance cancelled!

Even more annoying he doesn't seem to find he's done anything wrong as he was "helping me keep the place tidy" !!!!

Probably unreasonable how angry I am but still!

Strange AND annoying.
Why only every Friday?

Money problems he wants to hide causing secrecy?

YANBU, rant away!

DH hates my untidy "to do" piles of bills/letters/school reply slips on the sideboard and kitchen table but woe betide him if they get moved because I know exactly what's in those piles!

Accidentally hiding them? How odd. Well I would be having a rant too if I were you. Peculiar behaviour indeed.

Is your OH my husband? This is absolutely something he would do.

Weird? And, er, helping you keep the place tidy? What are you, his mummy?!

It's his house too.He can keep it tidy for himself. Although not by hiding post.

How strange. I assume friday is when he's at home when the postie comes and you are not.

What about having a file or pocket or something for post to go into, so that this won't happen again in the future.

Why do some people expect you to be psychic? [boggle] He knew what he'd done with it so therefore you would too.

Friday is the only day he's home from work before me!

We have no money issues luckily we live in a 2 bed flat and both have well paid jobs - he does hate paying bills though and I do insist on ripping the plaster off and just paying them when they come.

I think it comes from times when he was broke and letters scared him but doesn't make it any less annoying!

I cannot believe a 30 year old man does not see th importance of open in letters fairly promptly!

There was even an RSVP to someone's wedding in there! Feeling major guilty for cursing we weren't invited now!

Revels that's such a good idea! I'll source something before Friday!

My DH will carelessly throw the post somewhere randomly in the house and then dump paperwork from his two jobs on top. Fortunately no bills but it drives me insane. If there's any post in his name then he wont open it because he 'knows what it is'

yanbu

What is it about men and not opening letters? I put DH's post on his chair so he can't miss it (and he puts mine on my sofa if he picks it up). I eagerly rip open letters and either file or put them on my 'to do' pile. He casually discards them (unopened) onto the table next to his chair, where they languish for months amid empty crisp packets, drinks cans, some aftershave, a handkerchief, etc etc. Then he'll have a mad panic when he realises something important's happened, like say his pension payments have gone up, and he was never informed. Except of course, he was, and he never opened the letter.

Ha ha weeantwee- that's it, he won't open it because he knows what it is!

Yanbu, but I get where your Dh is coming from, dp is a letter hider and I'm a piler you'd hate to live with us!

YANBU

I'm saying that through gritted teeth though. I do what your husband does too. I got to the point where I had a cabinet in the living room packed with unopened post

I can't explain why, I'm sure he can't either.

I'd just try to keep en eye on it now you know it's happening.

Also (forgot to say), could you put some time aside for him to go through it? I dont mean that you do it with him necessarily, but that you agree a time and date?

I know when I confronted what I had done, it took a huge weight off my mind. The 'ignoring' it was far, far worse.

Can you pay some bills by direct debit? That might help if he persists, although I have to say I'd be livid with him.