AIBU to be pissed off with friend's husband's comments?

[CeliaFate]

Everytime we socialise with this couple the husband makes comments to me inferring I'm lazy, spoiled and a princess. I'm not.

I work part time (lazy), we live in a nice house (spoiled) and dh is a good husband (princess).
He says things like "Celia can do it, it'll give her something to do."
Or, "Celia, let your dh sit down, he's been working all day."
He's a caveman type of bloke, I wouldn't normally have anything to do wiht him but he comes as a part of the group iyswim.
It's getting to the stage where I'll either snap and insult him or stop seeing them.

They're not close friends, more than acquaintances.

AIBU? WWYD?

I'm presuming this 1950s throwback isn't a Brad Pitt lookalike? In which case I'd throw whatever he says right back at him.

So, he says: "Celia can do it" you say to him "Actually, I've heard that doing X stimulates hair growth, so I imagine that you want to."

He says "Celia, you do X as your DH has been on his feet all day" you say to him "Well you clearly haven't been on your feet for a while, in fact can you even see your feet over that beer gut? I'd say that you need the exercise more than me."

All said with a smile and a girlie giggle and if questioned just explain you're teasing him the way that he is clearly teasing you, because he couldn't possibly be serious, could he?!? Then throw him the death look

What about saying "Oh Cuntface DF's husband, you really WILL have to change the record, I can only imagine everyone else is as bored of this as I am. Now, who saw Homeland (or whatever) this week". Then just ignore ignore ignore. If he calls you on ignoring him then say "Well it's just so boring to hear your offensive view of me all the time, I thought I'd already explained it to you? .

PS YANBU!!!!

I'd be make pointed comments about the 1950's calling and wanting their manners back...

Just tell him to fuck off or stop associating with them!

If you take the piss out of him how does what does differ?

He does sound like an arsehole but is he just returning the pisstaking?

I think MintyChops has the right idea, although my mischievous side would insist I replied to him with 'being an on demand wanton sex goddess really takes it out of me, but at least DH doesn't seem to mind' >smile sweetly<

How on earth does his DW stand him?

Whenever he volunteers you for something say 'Oh no, i'm terribly busy; I said i'd dig out the number of the very nastiest divorce lawyer I could find. So can't stop, cos we all know she could do a billion times better...

What a tit.

He's not called Mike is he?

I'd just casually say 'Oh my someone is stuck in the 1950s' and then change the subject.

Oh, how tiring. I'd have to ex-communicate him. He sounds like a prize twat.

Of course, you only work part-time and don't do ANYTHING at home...

Urgh Dh has a friend like this. He made a number of digs about me only working part time, not working for a few years while the children were babies etc. I just said yes that's right I have a really good husband. With lots of emphasis on the good. I then gave him the death stare. He's never mentioned it again fucker

Piss in his drink.

"the bloke is used to saying "Jump" and his wife says "How high?"

Yep, he clearly thinks that all women should be pushovers like his wife is. Pull him on it every single time, say that its so nice for your DH to be in an equal relationship and that he would never make you be his servant. Comment eveytime then cull them. You aren't friends, only acquaintances so not a problem.

What an arsehole he really is.

Alistair

Do it OP.

Bat it back, every time!!

Celia, let your dh sit down, he's been working all day, requires a 'Oh yes, because me working x hours and looking after the children and doing the housework is so much easier than...(whatever your DH does)

Celia can do it, it'll give her something to do, that needs a 'I have done plenty, thanks for your concern.

Smile very widely, so no offence could possibly be taken. I also recommend talking to your DH about it first, so he realised you are not sniping at him, just defending yourself.

Tell him to fuck off and stick to bullying his wife, she married the dickhead. Your husband should be standing up for you, not that great a husband to allow his wife to be spoken to like that.

Right. I will smile, ignore, tell him to fuck off then piss in his drink.
zatyaballerina dh is of the opinion that any response will make him worse, so he just ignores him. If I told asked him to, he would say something.

I think zatya's nailed it actually. Perfect!

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I suspect your DH means it will make it worse for him
It's not really that nice for you now, is it

OP by your DH saying it would make it worse he is taking the lazy option.
I would say to your DH "Well you obviously agree with your friends treatment of me otherwise you would have said something so as you agree with him i will pack in my part time job and you will have to do more hours"

It shows laziness and a lack of respect on the part of your DH.

Do you work part time because you have DCs? In which case I'd go with "gosh I wish I was at work rather than running around after the kids - DH's has got the easier job!"

The rave about your DH - twats like this are often insecure. I'd play on that, so lots of "I'm so lucky with DH, not many men are able to earn enough to mean their wives can stay at home with the children. I know I'm so lucky I've got one of the better ones that he's able to provide us with the choice, although DH does prefer that the children are raised by us rather than outsourced fulltime." (deliver with a winning smile to DH). Or "DH is such a great bloke, he really puts me and the children first, I'm so glad I'm not single, there seems to be so few really decent blokes out there, the world is full of selfish twats, I feel so sorry for my single friends trying to date now." Twat man will see this as an insult. Reframe it, you are lucky to have DH not because you are taking the piss, but because he's better than the other men at the table.

I prefer casual emasculation for this kind of cunty behaviour. Next time he kicks off, agree with him and make a big deal about how lucky you are to have a real man for a husband that treats you so well.

Not only will it shut him up, he'll be really annoyed.