To be hurt SIL to be didn't invite me to her hen do.

[Allegrogirl]

I'm not asking if she should have asked me. Entirely her decision who goes to her hen do. AIBU to feel hurt? Every hen do I've been to has had SILs unless they live miles away. My DBro lives close by and we see each other often. I get on with his GF and I'm only 4 years older than her. I've met lots of her friends and get on with with them. I'm hoping I'm being over sensitive and that's it's not personal.

We can't go to the wedding as it's on the other side of the world with the GF's family. I feel that any interest I take in the wedding or their UK do is pushed aside and I don't get it. I've shown interest and offered to help but Dbro and DF don't seem interested.

I guess I am going to have to suck it up, smile sweetly and gush and the FB pictures of the hen do when I next see her.

Thanks for all the replies. It's nice to hear I'm not totally U. I am a sensitive soul.

TicTacZebra definitely not invited. Dropped birthday pressie off last week. Asked if any plans for weekend and she casually mentioned she was off on her hen weekend.

There is no other close family who would expect an invite. My mum is in her 60s, arthritic and rather old fashioned about hen dos. Doesn't get why mums and aunties go, she didn't come to mine. No other siblings or close cousins.

diddl I'm not an interfering type, quite the opposite. I have politely asked how things are going both for the main event and the UK party. Offered to help with the local do once or twice. They both seemed reluctant to talk too much about it. I know my DB was not keen to get married and his GF joked about keeping it low key to avoid spooking him.

BalloonSlayer maybe you're right. Gutted I can't go to my only sibling's wedding. Sad for my DDs they won't get that experience. I explained why we couldn't go. I don't think most of the hen party will be going but maybe because I'm family she has taken offence.

Maybe she did just want a groups of friends. There were about 10 of them and not all one group of friends, some local to here, others London friends met on travels. I've got drunk with sis in law to be several times and party hard when necessary.

I was expecting some explanation of why I wasn't invited and maybe a suggestion for a get together before she goes off for the wedding.

My sil didnt invite me. She came to mine, which was 11 months earlier. Granted I was seven months pregnant at her wedding but still, an invite would have been nice. Not sure I was in any wedding pictures but dont remember?

I do remember being excluded from my fils wedding pictures though. Entire family were in the wedding line up other than me and bil and my second ds who was six months old. They then called bil over and came and took the baby from my arms but excluded me. That bit a bit.

Anatanacoat that is a more positive way of looking at it, saying good bye to pre-married life.

It seems unusual to me as every hen do I have been on the hen has invited sis in laws to be even if only to be polite.

I think it was the way she casually announced it as I handed over her birthday present. Really insensitive, no softening of it or explanation.

I need a thicker skin.

I accidentally didn't invite my DSIL to my hen do. Talking to DMIL about plans she said something along the lines of 'we wouldn't enjoy that, we'll organise a family one for you', which never happened. I was a bit hurt by that but years later talking to DSIL it turned out she would have really enjoyed my hen do and was hurt not to be invited. All a big mix up
Having said that, when she got married a year later I was told I didn't have a corsage because I wasn't part of the family, I was the only family member with no role to play and I was in none of the photos, except the group shot of everyone. I don't know why because we really get on. Weddings make people weird

I didn't invite my sil to my hen night. Didn't occur to me.

She's ok but we're not close.

I think the way some women do the hen night thing.. being sick on themselves, snogging randoms and being generally kind of well. urgh. She probably had good reason not to want her future husbands sister there.

Hen nights are shit. You got lucky