Am I being unreasonably harsh on DD? Homework related.

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Have been concerned about dds progress lately. Parents evening coming up and will discuss. I'm unsure what's going on with her. She's y3. Not sure if she is just not making effort generally or something else going on.

She has done her homework and basically not good enough, handwriting terrible, sentences are basic and not as well as she is capable of. I've told her she needs to re write it in pen and neater and improve the sentences. She'd wants me to rip out the rubbish page and leave no trace. I'm refusing saying it stays in. She says she will lose playtime if it stays in. I'm pretty sure if the is an effort shown to improve it she won't lose play time. But explained if she does this may be the kick up the back side she needs.

She howling and being very dramatic. Have given her ten mins to sort her self out or she loses the chance to correct it at all. She is sorting herself out.

Am I being too harsh, what would others do. Rip it out or leave it in?

Ok, that wasn't very politely phrased, but honestly HW before Y6 (Y5 as we have combined classes) is an utter nightmare.

All, but the very best DCs cannot write and spell well enough to produce work that their parents think is good enough.

I'm 'blessed' with being mum to the best and worst readers/writers in the class

We are not primary teachers, we forget how young they are and don't realise how little work on paper Y2-Y4 DCs actually produce and how much support teachers give.

DD2 may have been very good at writing, but she also likes to be certain she is doing exactly the right thing. Any slight doubt about exactly what the questions meant, what method to use or how much to write and she got in a fluster. She absolutely would not take me or DHs advice.

DD1 is dyslexic and that clearly causes it's own set of problems.

In any case DCs want to step out the school door and be children. They want to unwind and play.

And the more they play the game the more they want to de-stress. Quirky often bullied DD1 was glad to escape other DCs, but actually it was and is sociable, academic and totally perfectly behaved DD2 who hates HW most.

Still does, even in Y8. Yes she can do it easily enough, but she concentrates so hard on obeying both the classroom and social rules at school that she needs time to drop the act and unwind.