Aibu to still be cross about this?

[CeliaFate]

Ds went to a party and went up to the buffet table to get his food. On his return to the table, he went to sit down and his friend kicked his chair away, so ds fell to the floor and tipped his drink all over himself and dropped his food on the floor.

He's really sad about it, feels very upset that his friend would do that and everyone laughed at him.
I feel so hurt on ds's behalf. AIBU?

How old is DS? Either it may be worth having a chat about friendship and how true friends behave and YANBU to feel for him. Are there any other signs of bullying?

If he's older it may be jack the lad behavior that's acceptable within the group that's gone too far or he's not appreciated being the butt of. If he's older there's less you can do in terms of teaching regarding true friends.

He's 10. He's more ignored than bullied if that makes sense. He's not good at handling group situations which makes this sort of behaviour hard for him which ends up being a vicious circle as the boys tend to go for him first knowing they'll get a reaction.

how horrible :(

i feel really sad for him too, and i don't even know him! how old is he?

sorry, cross posted with you.

children are so cruel sometimes aren't they? :(

Your poor DS, how is he now?

It wouldn't excuse it, but could it have just been something that children think are a good idea at the time (because he'd seen it portrayed elsewhere, TV etc) but he hadn't thought it through properly and didn't mean to be nasty to your DS?

It happens all the time to adults, if he's his friend and like KungFu says nothing else is going on I would try to play it down to your DS.

Poor boy. I'd find it hard to get over that one too.

Poor wee chap. Worth a mention to the teacher perhaps, I know it was a party not school but if most of the contact with these boys is in school maybe they could help.

No, I'd be hurt for him too.

I'd be feeling the same as you. Kids can be so cruel. His friend probably did it as a spur of the moment thing not thinking how much it would upset your DS. Just tell him to go to school, hold his head high and act as if nothing happened.

Poor Kid. Did anyone say anything to the other boy at the time? How does your son feel about him?

I think ds just ran to the toilets to dry himself off. He said his friend said sorry and ds has forgiven him. I haven't yet!

glad his friend said sorry very mature of him to forgive him. I'd maybe have a chat to make sure this 'friend' doesnt so things like this all the time to him and just say sorry after. if it was a one off then I would tell ds how well he handled the situation and he is obv more maturer than so called friend

That's so dangerous. I heard of this happening to someone years ago and it actually broke her spine. Tell his friends parents and tell them they need to explain to their son that his behaviour was unacceptable and dangerous. If more children were taught to "do unto others as you would be done by" they might just think twice before being so cruel.

It is the sort of silly thing that children do though - my friends ds (who would have been 14 or 15 at the time) did it to her while on holiday 4 years ago. She broke and dislocated her coccyx and was in a lot of pain for 5 months, and he was distraught at what he'd done but had just thought it would be funny.

I would be raging. There's no excuse for that. Hope whoever was supervising the party pulled that boys up about his behaviour - sounds like a little thug

I was in my local pub restaurant a few months ago when a 10yr old boy (in my DS's year) did this to his Mum.

The chair was made of heavy wood and as she went down on the floor, she scraped her back really badly

thats v dangerous and that boy needs telling. can you explain to his parents? age 10 they wont necessarily know the danger