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to be fed up with my unrelible friend?

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Loopyloulu · 03/11/2013 16:38

who never phones when she says she will?
I've known her for 30+ years. For lots of reasons I don't feel quite the same about the friendship and due to the geography we are an hour away from each other with a big city in the middle.
So- most contact is by phone with the occasional meet up - maybe 4 times a year at most- and usually me going to her when I'm passing but she never suggests coming to see me when she's passing.

Anyhoo- she rarely ever phones when she says. Last week we played 'answerphone friends' with each of us leaving messages- once I called her and she was just going out and promised to call me Friday. She didn't of course. She's now phoned but I've family here and not a good time to chat.

She did apologise for not calling on Friday but what really pissed me off was the fact that she told me she was on the phone all day 'it never stopped' 9 what for 16 hours?) and she spent an hour talking to an old friend.

Fine. I'm an old friend but as always I am bottom of her list. she'll never put off friends for me- is always have to fit in around her and them. I am sure she thinks oh good old reliable Loopy, I can do what I want and she'll still be around.

If it were me I'd have sent a text with a 'sorry' or put other calls on hold but no, she doesn't.

Apart from not rushing to return her calls, is there anything you think I could do or say to show my feelings?

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RoseRedder · 03/11/2013 17:40

It sounds like the friendship has dwindled, or is dwindling.

It's always horrid when this happens but it does happen (alot and too many)

If it was me I'd want to tell her how she was making me feel but in reality I'd probably say nothing because it achieves nothing except a sort of formal end to a friendship

Although it will hurt, it sounds like she has disengaged from you as a good friend. Sorry Sad

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