To rigidly refuse to speak to MIL?

[3MenAndMe]

I love reading MIL related treads and it looks like its my turn(thought it will never happen ...)So....
Couple of weeks ago was on Skype with her after long awaited call(we normally call each other everyday and shenis the only person I talk to as have very strained relationship with my parents, but that's another story).
1 minute into the call and admiring DGS her neighbour burst in, barely glances at us and completely ignoring me, bothering my MIL about some problems with inserting batteries (neighbour lives in opposite flat, same block for last 30 years....)...
No problem with this but my MIL says to me "Sorry, we will catch up later...bla, bla, bla" and leaves...
I'm still really hurt and not speaking to her since....Forgave her many things in the past, including chucking DH and me out when heavily pregnant with 20 mo from the flat we were previously happily sharing(I later found out that she wanted a bit of peace,leaving me and unemployed DH with no roof over our heads)....
Should I swallow my pride or stick to my guns...
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Oh my goodness, nobody has kicked you in the face.
Honestly, you sound like you have ishoos, her neighbour 'barely glancing' at you. 'Complete;y ignoring me'
You are coming across as very high maintenance.

I think you need to step back from this, do you fall out with people very easily? What does your husband think?

I think you need to pick your battles, she didn't do anything wrong here.

Hahahah worra I was just about to write exactly the same post as you.

In all the years I've been on mumsnet, this has to be the most pointless overreaction to a non-event I've ever read in my life!

OP, just in case you didn't realise, you're being ridiculously unreasonable.

Yabu I'm afraid. My dm and I do this all the time

"I'm watching a programme, I'll call you back"
"I'm having my tea"
"I need a pee"!

You get the idea. It really is perfectly normal tbh

It's a lot of pressure to be the only person someone speaks to. She needs to be available to you whenever you need her as you don't have the option of saying 'mil is busy I'll call so & so instead'. I'm not saying that's necessarily your fault but it most certainly isn't hers

So so funny. Are real people actually like this?!

YABU

Did you just want to join in with MIL bashing on MN?

If you dont want to talk to someone however it isnt your job, let dh skype her

This is ridiculous! You don't fall out over her chucking you and yours out but you won't speak to her because she had to end a skype conversation early??? It's complete madness and you are being completely unreasonable.

MIL BASHING

Well as the OP has had everyone this thread call her unreasonable, I'd say there is no "mother in law bashing" just people getting irritated when MIL are actually being unreasonable.

I'd still like to know more details about this throwing out of the flat business.

I'll bet there's the OP's version, the MIL version and the true version (which will be somewhere in the middle).

Nah, MN is full of MIL bashing

Sounds like OP wanted to join in.

APartridge - did you not pick up on the OPs enjoyment of a good MIL thread?

As stated in her original post?

massive overreaction! YABU! She didn't do anything wrong and you talk to her all the time... not like it was a once a year long awaited catch up. Get over it and move on.

I'm sorry OP, but we're going to need a lot of drip-feeding here. I think you are unreasonable, but is there something else going on in your life?

I'm imaging the scene with the OP's own parents:

"Sorry love, can I ring you back? I need a poo."

"You are dead to me."

Wow.......totally and utterly over the top

BOF!!!

@ "you are dead to me"

:o

Yeah I don't think OP is coming back. Not someone who likes being disagreed with.

BOF I had the alternative with one of my dcs at uni. We'd be chatting away on the phone(thankfully no skype in those days) and they said better go now mum have to wipe my bum!! They had been doing the poo while we chatted yuk

Imagine doing this at work.

You're in a meeting with your boss and another manager runs into the room and asks him/her to help with an urgent task.

Your boss says to you, "Sorry, we'll catch up later" and leaves the room.

When he/she comes back your lanyard, notice and spare biro are on his desk.

Ah, I see what happened.
The neighbour came in jest when the MIL was admiring the DGS and didn't join in.
So OP got pissed off at the lack of appreciation for the DC.
Still YABU.

OP
Your MIL has had to live close to this PITA neighbour for 30 years, I know as have one next door. Everybody puts her first and panders to her to get her off their backs and keep her sweet. I think this is how it is for your MIL.
The neighbour had barged in and was demanding help from your MIL in her flat, of course she had to deal with her there and then.

If I had been you I would have liked MIL to have spoken to her neighbour with a sharp tone of voice that she was skyping with her DIL and GC and she would have to wait for her help.

The neighbour probably said it was very urgent and couldn't wait.
Don't let it upset you.