to think that dh should have some compassion while I get used to new anti d's?

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the Dr has just put me on sertraline 100mg. I've had these before but only 50mg. I've always suffered with depression and anxiety but it's become really bad lately due to issues in my personal life, hence why I have restarted the tablets.

I'm going through some side effects - twitching legs, jaw clenching, extreme tiredness. I just generally feel very out of sorts and strange.

I've opted to not go with dh to a family gathering today due to this. he is angry and thinks I need to make an effort, show him that I am trying to get over this. I just want to lie in bed by myself.

I don't know which of us is unreasonable.

He is unreasonable. And unkind.
You don't have to "show" him anything.

Tell him you are taking these ADs so that you can get to some point where you can participate in life fully again - in the meantime it would be nice if he was able to give you space to get through the initial side effects.

Are you sure his attitude isn't contributing to your anxiety?

YANBU, upping meds can be horrible.

Yanbu. It's not about him it's about you, you don't need to show him anything. Hope you start to feel better soon

well it's true that a lot of these issues I spoke of are to do with our marriage. I am not blameless.

I just want some understanding from him. or just space, if he can't understand.

If the medication was for a sore back, say, would he be more sympathetic?

Perhaps he needs to revisit his attitude to mental health issues?

Did you start straight on 100mg? If so I would cut back to 50 for a few days and then up it to 100. I had side effects when I first started at 50mg. It's a weird feeling kind of spaced out and not right but you do sound as though you are on too high a dose at the moment.
Your husband is being thoughtless.

The side effects from anti-ds can be quite strange and scary while you get used to them. DH has recently started taking them (sertraline as well) and he gets very manic at times. He really should be more understanding. It can take a week or two to get used to them, and even longer for them to actually start doing something.

Neither of you is unreasonable. I think you both need to cut each other some slack.

The side effects of your meds sound horrendous and his comment about showing him you are making an effort to get over this is unfair.

It can be really difficult supporting a loved one through long term depression and anxiety. Does your DH get any support, a chance to vent or a listening ear from anyone?

i just wanted to jump in and say that iam on sertraline.When your body gets used to them, then you will feel much better.i have depression and anxiety and sertraline is very good.The first week i took them i just wanted to be left alone too.Try not to feel pressured by your dh comments.

What WhoNickedMyName said.

Hope you feel better soon.

You poor thing. The side effects can be awful sometimes. I felt like id had ecstasy when I went back on mine.

He's being deeply unreasonable and you need to tell him. Why the hell does this still happen. People's view of mental health is completely wrong.

It can be very difficult to live with someone who has mental health problems. Perhaps he needs to be given some support as well.

Thank you all for responses. I do sometimes worry that he is overwhelmed by it all. He keeps saying he just wants 'me' back. While I know he has every right to want that, everytime he says it I feel even more dysfunctional. I know I am a mess. I want me back too. Its like he thinks its all an act.