Not so much AIBU as AIB over sensitive?

[SpudtheScarecrow]

Just wondered if anyone else would be upset by this? Will try and keep in short.

My birthday this week and had 2 friends coming to stay. Plan was to go to bonfire then hang out when my DC are in bed (neither of them have may children) then do something together tomorrow. I was going to do lunch or brunch.

Anyway this morning I let them know I would be back a bit later this afternoon than I thought so they might want to get together for lunch. They have done this and then decided to stay at 1 of their houses tonight and only come over for a few hours. (1 of them lives nearer but not very near iykwim)

I feel really hurt that they've dumped me on my birthday. It'll actually be nice to have some time with DH and the DCs as we've been busy recently but that's not the point! But am I just being a bit childish?

They haven't dumped you.

Now you have the best of both worlds - time with your friends and time with your DH and DC.

YANU to feel gutted that the plans have changed but they haven't dumped you OP.

They know you are running late and probably think you'll be stressing and so they're trying to lighten the load by coming over but not staying and putting more on you. I know personally I'd offer that option if my friend was running late and I thought she was stressing about it. I'd feel that by staying I'd be putting more on her because (knowing my friends) they'd feel like they had to sort the house for company and do a dozen different things because of me staying over.

Did they say to you why they decided to stay somewhere else?