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AIBU?

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To really dislike my sister at the moment.

7 replies

secondchances · 02/11/2013 12:50

When I split with my ex a while back, we agreed to not let anyone get involved in the break up & to make it aware to people who did ask that it was a mutual decision. I did just that. When family/friends asked I said we drifted apart & it was a mutual decision. Since then, I have had nothing but drama from my family. My sister thought it was a good idea to email my ex & ask for more info on our split. My ex seems to think my friends influenced me to agree to split :S therefore my sister emailed me telling me how much she doesn't like my friends, that im different since being with them (known them for 10yrs) & that my family will do a better job of being there for me than what my friends will.

Surely if family will do a better job then my sister wouldn't have emailed my ex to find out more details about our split. Surely family would be happy with your choice if it made you happy? My family are now being distant with me. Not because I have moved on. But because of the email my sister sent my ex. I've explained to them what happened, I've told them i'm happier now than what I was 8 months ago & I've told them if they cant be happy for me then that's fine but at the very least put it behind you & be civil to me for the sake of keeping the peace If nothing else.

Why did my sister do this? It hasn't made me trust her or look at her as a person I would go to. Its made me really angry. I don't want to fall out with anyone especially since it really has nothing to do with them. I just needed to rant tbh. Get it off my chest. I've always been told that I need to start putting my happiness first. The first time I actually do it & im told im wrong for doing it.

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Oldraver · 02/11/2013 13:00

Is she a drama queen or does she love stiring up drama for someone else ?

Mu Mum is like this and when my out-laws acted in a bad way toward me (and I had chosen to ignore their behaviour) my Mum tried goading me into retaliating for ages. In the end it was my Mums behaviour that irritaed me most.

Some poeple just thrive on the drama and your DS probably didnt like the fact you were getting on with things like grown ups

Giyadas · 02/11/2013 13:10

Tell your sister to keep her neb out of it. Doesn't she have her own life to worry about? Ex should have exercised a bit of discretion too.
Glad you're happier now. Try and focus on that and block any attempts by your family to interfere.

Giyadas · 02/11/2013 13:11

Oh and yanbu.

secondchances · 10/11/2013 12:43

Im beginning to think she likes to try & make me slip up.

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Shellywelly1973 · 10/11/2013 12:54

Yanbu.

Your family sounds very like mine... Please yourself ultimately life's too short!

You know your better off without your ex.

SeaSickSal · 10/11/2013 13:01

YANBU to expect your sister to keep her nose out.

YABU to dump your boyfriend then expect him to play along that he was fine with it and it was mutual when he clearly wasn't.

Financeprincess · 10/11/2013 14:13

How old is your sister? 15?

If I were you I'd just try to move on from your relationship and try to forgive your sister. She's behaved like an idiot, but family is family, after all. Take the high road, as they say.

Good luck, and I'm sure you'll meet someone nice soon.

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