To be pissed off that DP didn't even get me a card for our anniversary!

[Babysealion]

It's our first anniversary together today (a year since we got together).
That might not sound significant but I'm 27 weeks pregnant (surprise baby) and he proposed to me in July.
We arranged to go out for tea and to the cinema tonight. He asked if I wanted a gift, I said I'd be happy with a bunch of flowers.
Get in from work, give him his card and he hasn't even got me a card.
I know I'm ragingly hormonal so probably ABU. I just feel really upset that he hasn't bothered :(

IMO cards are not appropriate for this, but its nice to make it special with a date, so YABU.

You are obviously hormonal so you are forgiven.

But a) I am jiggered if I can remember the day Mr Gain and I got together (in fact it happened over a period of time iirc!) and b) from what you are saying I am assuming you are not yet married...are there cards available to celebrate the day you became an item (come to think of it, I would be amazed if Hallmark weren't onto that one!)

But he clearly wants to celebrate with you:I wouldn't say he hasn't bothered: surely the cardboard remembrance is not that important, in the scheme of things.

But as I say, if you can't be hormonal now, when can you be?

Many many congratulations, and enjoy your celebrations! x

Maybe next time say that you'd be happy with a bunch of flowers AND a card? (hoping that you got the flowers?)

He says he didnt get me flowers because last time he did I forgot to put them in water and they died. Last time he got me flowers I'd just been told by the doctor at the EPU that my hcg levels were too low to sustain the pregnancy and that I was either going to miscarry or it was an ectopic pregnancy. Thankfully that didn't happen but I was in such a state I didn't know whether I was coming or going for days.

Congrats on your baby. Yanbu, a card is such a memorable gift. You can always look at it many years from now. I thought it was also a bit to ask if you want a gift.

My husband and I can't even remember the date of our wedding and have to google the name of a prominent sporting fixture which fell on the same day + year if we want to be precise (without digging out our certificate). We'd been together for over 10 years when we married. Our 20th going out anniversary passed a few weeks ago and we both forgot that too. Still, we have a strong and happy relationship despite our complete failure to mark anniversaries. In the grand scheme of things, I'd say forgetting a going out anniversary is no biggy. Put it down to the horm

... Hormones and take a chill pill. The unnecessary stress won't be doing the baby any favours.

Are there cards for 'a year since we got together'? I imagine not. I love birthdays, Christmas and all that and I think YABU about this one.

If he asked and you said flowers, he should have got flowers.

Don't be sad op - it doesn't mean anything.

FWIW my DH and me have completely forgotten out last two wedding anniversaries......

Okay maybe not a card, I got him a card that was just a blank 'to the one I love' card so maybe was a bit unrealistic expecting him to get a card. Upset over the flowers though :( I will try and get a grip!

I'm blaming it on your pregnancy hormones as without them I'd say you were being a bit silly. Me and DH have no idea what date we got together, or got engaged.

I think YANBU, as he asked if you wanted a gift, and yet got you nothing . But I am as pregnant as you are, must be hormones

YANBU. Of course he should have got you a card! It shows a complete lack of effort.