I know I am..

[BridgetJonesStoleMyPants]

I know its unreasonable.. im genuinely chuffed my dd has such doting grandparents. even though I wish it was my parents making the effort but whatevs.

But I am beginning to feel a bit over it.

grandma this..grandma that.. I love grandma. ' do you love mummy?' is met with a blank stare.

She goes on and on about what they've done together. . (shes 2.5)

this is not helping me like my mil any better lighthearted

this, you have no idea how lucky you and your DD are :)

YKYABU.

Just wait until school, when she refuses to do something the way you have always done it because "Miss Jones does it this way." You'll have plenty of Miss Jones says this, Miss Jones says that, and - worst best of all "Miss Jones smells soooo nice, Mummy. Why don't you smell like Miss Jones, Mummy?"

oh I do. My side are a stark contrast and do not bother- and I grew up with the same so I'm really aware of how lucky she is (maybe im jealous!)

it just adds to my working mummy guilt.

like I said I know im unreasonable!

My DS has never met his paternal grandparents..

and who does she want when she is sad, who does she want to kiss her goodnight? mums are always there when needed and are loved unconditionally, they are also the first to be hurt as a secure child knows that whatever they say, however hurtful, mum will always love them and be there.

You need to use this to your advantage 'what would grandma say if she knew you weren't [doing something you want her to do]?'

funky ...unfortunately she doesn't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks, not even marvellous grandma lol!

obviously nor have I.

Yes, we have this a bit and sometimes I just wish I could be more of the fun one and less the one making sure that the boring stuff happens.

But I totally agree with Step, you are the mother, the don. There's also a chance that grandma heard how Mummy does it this way.

You are the one she turns to if she's poorly. I'd bet money on it and I'm not a betting person. That tells you everything you need to know.

Yeah, YABU and you know it

Just wait until she has school friends whose parents are just SO wonderful and everything is "so-and-so's mum cooks her potatoes THIS way" or "thingummy's dad collects THESE COOL THINGS WHICH ARE WAY COOLER THAN ANY OF YOUR TAT" ad infinitum.

Bet when she gets to school she shows off like crazy about her amazing mum who has a really cool job.

I beat myself up for ages when my DD quoted granny then her reception teacher showed me all the stuff she'd done praising me for essentially running the whole universe and knowing everything.

She's 17 now. Her view is a little different

lol thanks guys. I know she loves me really. . just a bit envious of super gran!

The way I see it, if you leave your child with someone there is always some kind of pang, so it's better to have those which result from her being happy than those which come if you have to wave goodbye to them as they cry and beg you to stay. Maybe you should suggest a few messy play ideas to her for super gran - they have fun and you can be pleased that you don't get stuck with the clean-up...