Dsis, diagnosed with long term mental illness but relatively stable and living independently and alone, needs abdominal keyhole surgery in a few weeks time, a larger incision may be necessary and the outcome may not be great, poss cancer.
I want to make myself available to go stay with her for at least a few days when she comes out of hospital, and believe this will be the best option for both her mental and physical health (she could possibly stay with another relative, but that may not be so great for MH).
DP is self-employed builder working on a couple of quite big projects which he is fairly key on. He generally works long hours and weekends if needed, and doesn't really have to think about childcare as I do it all as I work part time in school hours (he does help and is hands on when he's here).
We have 2 DC, one at school and one in nursery, AIBU to ask DP to cope alone if I organised extra childcare for before and after school and a couple of extra days nursery a week if needed? We don't exactly have heaps of money, and it would be a stretch to find it, but we would manage somehow, and I don't think this is the sort of thing you can put a price on is it? We all get unexpected bills from time to time don't we?
I should add, DP didn't respond favourably when I hinted at it - he would be worried about needing to work late/flexibly, but it would be a few days minimum and probably a week max. He also has never had to be responsible for school run, housework, homework etc, so I appreciate it will be extra pressure for him, but AIBU?