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To think we encountered a proper weirdo during tonight's festivities?

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:34

We live in a cul de sac and once you get out of ours, there is another, much larger one....well this other one is excellent at Halloween because almost ALL of the houses participate, decorate and go all out. Trick or treating is welcome and there are kids everywhere...other kids come from surrounding streets due to the air of festivity etc. These houses are our neighbors and as our Dc are young, we go early and then go home and they call on us in return with their mostly older kids.

There's about 30 houses I suppose...it's a big U shaped street.

We were in a group of about 6 and one child only aged 3 in our group got a bit freaked out halfway round, so I left my DC with DH and the other kids and adults and went home with the little lad and his Mum.

As we were leaving this U shaped cul de sac, we noticed one house lit up like christmas...all the curtains open and a man, in nowt but a TINY towel, repeatedly bending over touching his toes. Hmm

You could see his arse crack and it was a bit odd. When DH and the others came back he said that they'd seen him...and he was standing in the window doing pelvic thrusts in this towel!

He knew what night it was...he must have done it for attention! We just looked the other way but what was his motive?

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FudgefaceMcZ · 31/10/2013 22:36

That's one way to put off trick or treaters I suppose.

utreas · 31/10/2013 22:36

He may not have noticed his curtains were open

Mimishimi · 31/10/2013 22:37

Oh dear... And he was trying to attract the kids too with the lighting etc. Another reason why they should never be allowed to go out trick and treating by themselves, even as a group of children. Is there some kind of local registry you can check to see whether he has a history of offences relating to children? We are warned here in Australia if someone moves into the neighbourhood.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:38

Are you kidding utreas He couldn't FAIL to have seen the troops of kids walking past!

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VivaLeBeaver · 31/10/2013 22:38

I used to work with someone who ended up in court for this. It was a big case at the time, in the papers.

In a way I kind of felt sorry for him. If he'd thought he was unseen, in the privacy of his own home why shouldn't he be wearing just a towel. And if the local kids caught sight of his willy when the towel dropped off well maybe they shouldn't have been looking in his window. On the other hand maybe he was a pervy fucker who knew just what he was doing.

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/10/2013 22:39

On the other hand maybe he was a pervy fucker who knew just what he was doing. That would be my bet on this night.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:40

Mimi no you can't check that here unless the person has access to your children. He didn't have Halloween decorations up but every light in the house was on and all the curtains open. The house really stood out as all the others were only lit outside by pumpkins etc.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:41

Maybe I'm naive but what would he actually get out of doing this? Is it the same as flashers?

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VivaLeBeaver · 31/10/2013 22:42

Yep, same as flashing.

I always thought you could do what you want in your own house but what happened to my ex colleague suggests otherwise.

Your local police might be interested.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:43

Do you think Viva? DH said that but I was skeptical but I suppose if anyone else reports him...then it will have more weight.

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VivaLeBeaver · 31/10/2013 22:46

they took this seriously

And your incident sounds worse in some ways. It sounds more deliberate. But then if you couldn't see his genitals I suppose that's less serious. When you say you could see his bum crack do you mean like a builders bum, so top of crack? Or you could see his whole arse when he was touching his toes?

Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 22:48

I've seen several threads on here describing nude neighbours.

And lots of posters saying "so what - I wander around in my undies etc. Who cares?"

So, it's interesting that the opposite point of view is being expressed on this thread.

I'm not sure of the legalities though. Maybe people exercising in towels in their own house is perfectly legal.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:48

No...just the builders bum style...but it was his gestures that were more disturbing...for me, the repeated bending and DH saw the thriusting.

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YouTheCat · 31/10/2013 22:49

Why would anyone be touching their toes wearing a towel? Surely if you are exercising you put on some shorts or something?

What a perv.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:50

Salmon I think it's less that he was excersising and more that he was underdressed and indulging in pelvic thrusts at the time of night on Halloween when the road was full of children who MIGHT knock on your door.

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Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 22:52

I'm quite surprised at how much can be seen when looking into someone's window from the street OP?

If my neighbour was exercising in a towel in his front room and I was walking past I doubt very much whether I could state with certainty that his arse crack was visible from the street Hmm.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:53

Oh well...these are large, picture windows Salmon and not much lawn between the path and his home...as I said, lights were fully on. Maybe your eyes are a bit shite?

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Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 22:56

Maybe he was fed up of you and your DH staring in his window.

Maybe he thought "Sod it. I'm pissed off with this lot" and decided to shock you all?

MaryPoppinsBag · 31/10/2013 22:57

I was once walking to school from lunch when I was in Sixth Form and I looked up and it looked like a man was wanking in the window. I couldn't think what else he might have been doing that entailed that action - hoovering? Polishing a vase on the window sill? It actually gave me the giggles. But if he was I guess it was quite serious, but I just couldn't say for sure he had been.

Exercising in a towel and showing your crack and then thrusting is really weird. In fact the image is making me giggle. Perhaps it shouldn't but maybe it's one way of dealing with these strange men!

scarevola · 31/10/2013 22:58

It sounds like an area where the neighbours all know each other. Could you just ask one if he's often like that?

Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 22:58

Yes.

Maybe my eyes are a "bit shite" Hmm

Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 22:58

And there is no "n" in my NN.

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ICameOnTheJitney · 31/10/2013 22:59

You'll always be Salmon Strutta to me. That's how I see you...

Anyway...we were not staring! You couldn't miss him!

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Salmotrutta · 31/10/2013 23:03

There isn't another "S" in my NN either Jinty.

Fair enough. Quite possibly he's a neighbourhood weirdo.

Alexandrite · 31/10/2013 23:11

Do you mean he was doing pelvic thrusts in the direction of the window? That is a bit odd. Confused Pelvic thrusts aren't really a normal exercise move.

The man in Viva's article on the other hand I feel a bit sorry for. It sounds like a genuine mistake and assuming his lights were on because it was dark outside, well you wouldn't normally expect groups of kids walking around in the dark in September, when it gets dark later.