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Original poster

to not want to be around a child with a potential contagious disease?

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FadBook · 31/10/2013 09:54

Can't give too many details away as don't want to be outed.

It's half term and I've seen more of DB, DSIL and their DS (3) and DD (1) this week, days out, round each others for dinner etc.

Their DS has potentially got mumps (high temp, swollen neck/glands etc,) The GP appointment later today and may confirm this.

Our DD (2) has been playing with DS on and off all week so has been in contact.

AIBU to not want to go around tonight and for the rest of the weekend if the diagnosis is confirmed?

I admit I know nothing about mumps, other than what google has come up with, but have read that even immunised children can catch it; a 5% risk apparently that MMR doesn't work in all cases. It might come back that it isn't mumps but they seem pretty sure. My nephew has had the MMR and they're obviously worried about their youngest too.

I'm going around later to babysit my neice whilst they take DN to the GP. I plan to take them a nice lunch too, in case they can't go out.

I'm unsure if I'm being a bit daft given DD has been around him this week and if she was going to catch it, she would have by now; or if by stopping away, it reduces the risk for DD, then I should?

AIBU to not want to go around with DD for takeaway tonight (pre-planned as it's halloween, kids were dressing up etc)? I know DSIL will be gutted. MN jury - tell me what to do!

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Original poster
FadBook · 31/10/2013 10:21

Was expecting a flaming!

Hopeful bump Smile

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LIZS · 31/10/2013 10:25

Who has suggested mumps ? Very unusual if he was vaccinated but lots of other more common illnesses present with temperature and swollen glands.

misspontypine · 31/10/2013 10:29

I didn't think mumps was dangerous for girls ( possibly very wrong!)

I would imagine that your dd will have already been exposed to the virus.

If you think of tge chances, 5% chance of catching it, miniscule chance dd will not have already been exposed, even if dd does catch it it very likely wont be dangerous for her.

Original poster
FadBook · 31/10/2013 10:29

NHS direct - they spoke to a GP during the night. It wasn't just swollen glands, but a proper swelling of the neck area. I'm bloody hoping it isn't mumps.

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DinosaurTooScary · 31/10/2013 10:36

Hi. If DD is going to get it, she will have caught it by now. Didn't think it was dangerous in girls? I had it when little and have no lasting damage. Don't worry, she'll be fine. Smile

absentmindeddooooodles · 31/10/2013 10:41

Id just go tbh. If your dd is going to get it she will have got it by now.

Fwiw I was up to date with all immunisations but got mimps when I was 10. Bloody horrid and felt rough as hell.....but none of my siblings or any friends caught it.

Should be fine.

absentmindeddooooodles · 31/10/2013 10:41

*mumps

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FadBook · 31/10/2013 10:41

Thanks Dinosaur

I just hope she doesn't get it. There is the selfish part of me that thinks - what am I going to do about childcare if she does? According to mr Google, the contagious period is up to 12 days Shock

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LIZS · 31/10/2013 10:41

It is thought I suffered hearing loss due to mumps :(

Unexpected · 31/10/2013 10:43

Too late now. If whatever your nephew has is contagious, she will already have caught it. I would carry on with your plans unless he is very unwell in which case SIL would probably want to cancel anyway.

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FadBook · 31/10/2013 10:46

That's awful LIZS

I've heard it can affect fertility in boy / adult men. It's not a nice disease at all.

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kinkyfuckery · 31/10/2013 10:51

Perfectly justified in staying away as their dc is ill! I wouldn't imagine he'll be much up for visitors anyway!

OccamsRaiser · 31/10/2013 10:52

My sister suffered total death of the nerve to one ear as a result of mumps. Now profoundly deaf on one side. Whoever said it's not harmful to girls is dead wrong, I'm afraid!

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FadBook · 31/10/2013 10:58

That's awful too OccasmsRaiser - I'm really worried for DN too. I know SIL is worried and don't want to be an arse and say we're not coming around.

I might just offer to pick up takeaway for them or something.

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misspontypine · 31/10/2013 11:21

I'm sorry I said it wasn't dangerous to girls, it sounds terrible, I didn't know it could be so serious.

I hope your dn is ok op and the rest of the family don't catch it.

Quoteunquote · 31/10/2013 11:26

I would avoid anyone with a high temperature, why risk getting an infection, seems rather foolish, no matter what the cause, and I would expect the child would be better off having quite time and resting if he feels poorly.

intitgrand · 31/10/2013 13:20

I would be more concerned about your own immunity.How old are you and how long since you were vaccinated, if at all?
I was born before the MMR and only had measles vaccine as a baby and then rubella at school.

lljkk · 31/10/2013 13:31

I would go as planned; I wouldn't worry about it if Dc were vaxed and so was I.

LIZS · 01/11/2013 09:30

what was the outcome ?

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