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AIBU?

To wish people would stop bragging about how well off they are?

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superstarheartbreaker · 30/10/2013 18:03

It keeps happening...often by stealth. The worst culprits are those women who boast about their partner's promotion. ..well that's lovely dear but what about YOUR achievements?
Am I bitter and jealous? Yes as I sm struggling but next time anyone boasts about money im going to have a hissy fit. I might just say 'well im luvung off the tax payer and my unheritance' which is kind of true. Not proud of it...im dying to get a better paid job myself.

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UsedToBeNDP · 30/10/2013 18:20

I don't think telling your friends that your H got a new job/ promotion is "bragging" either.

WereTricksPotter · 30/10/2013 18:22

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RandomMess · 30/10/2013 18:22

Unfortunately I just seem to work with people about having no money when they are very comfortably off (they are very open about their finances) and it is very irritating as there are other people in the office who are really struggling and are much older and really there financial future is not great!!!!

Crowler · 30/10/2013 18:23

No, I don't think discussing a promotion is bragging.

I think discussing income, how much your house is worth, private school fees, second homes, etc is crass.

Ememem84 · 30/10/2013 18:23

Met a lady today while at a work lunch networking thing. Yawn. Asked her where she worked. Her reply "my husbands a senior partner at (other firm)". That's nice. But what do you do....?

perplexedpirate · 30/10/2013 18:26

Bragging about material things is, I agree, horribly vulgar and ill-mannered.
But telling your friends how proud you are when your loved ones do well is different IMO.
My DH is flogging himself to death studying and working full time. When he passes his course you'd better believe people are going to hear about it!
I'm incredibly proud of him.

SeeYouNT · 30/10/2013 18:27

MN may ot be the place for you then, superstar! Some people make it their life's work. Always the same people too

ha thats pretty much what i came on to say

and yes its always the same people, they make me long for a hide poster button

Tulip26 · 30/10/2013 18:29

There's nothing wrong with doing well for yourself or getting a promotion, good for you.

However, someone moaning to me that they're spending £120 a month on Sky and 'it's playing up' just annoys me. I'm not very material and I hate the idea of wasting money on something frivolous.

Crowler · 30/10/2013 18:31

and yes its always the same people, they make me long for a hide poster button hmm

yep.

MrsDoomsPatterson · 30/10/2013 18:35

I just remember back to the old Harry Enfield sketch, 'Considerably richer than yow' - yes, yes - we geddit, ya minted....

MrsDoomsPatterson · 30/10/2013 18:36

I'm not hard up but, fooking 'ell....

Coupon · 30/10/2013 18:36

Ememem84 maybe she thought you were asking what her connection was with that particular event.

needaholidaynow · 30/10/2013 18:46

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AnyFuckerReporting · 30/10/2013 18:48

When they start, just immediately start banging on about how attractive/clever/whatever you are instead.

6cats3gingerkittens · 30/10/2013 18:48

AM GOING TO INCENSE THE POSTER. AM now better off than when I was working thanks to going without to pay for pensions. Rich to me is 1000/month and time to spend it in. Have been single since 1978 and have bought own tiny house. Now just me and the cats. Excuse me while I go and smug.

KatieScarlett2833 · 30/10/2013 18:49

Enjoy 6cats, bloody good for you!

superstarheartbreaker · 30/10/2013 18:50

I think it is lovely that people are proud of their partners but think its sad when they live through them. A bit like living through your kids I expect.

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Crowler · 30/10/2013 18:50

6cats, enjoy :-)

Tulip26 · 30/10/2013 18:52

Well done 6cats! Nothing wrong with scrimping to enjoy life later on.

6cats3gingerkittens · 30/10/2013 18:56

Thank you. Kind wishes gratefully accepted.

KatieScarlett2833 · 30/10/2013 18:59

But ...
Just because you are proud of your DH achievement doesn't mean you have none of your own?

KirjavaTheCorpse · 30/10/2013 19:05

My friend does this constantly, it drives me fucking batty.

She doesn't know that we earn more than her, because I've never told her all about our finances, oddly never felt the bloody need. I can only assume she's bragging because she thinks we earn less. Which makes it even worse. Why do people do it?

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noisytoys · 30/10/2013 19:06

It's similar to friends who say what they used to do before they had children when asked what they do. Often their children are teens / adults and they are still living what they used to do!

LEMisafucker · 30/10/2013 19:10

The people who get my goat are those who are clearly doing very well, or comfortably but the whine about having no money

Alot of the mums at DDs school have far more money that i will ever have, i would like to think they judge me for who i am rather than what have, i am the same.

Coupon · 30/10/2013 19:20

Why should people feel they have to come up with a socially acceptable answer to "what do you do?" Maybe they just don't want to talk about work, or however they spend their time. Not very surprising when some people only ask so they can pigeonhole you.

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