To wish MN didn't move so fast that threads that matter to people get overlooked

[mixedupmuddledup]

I am BU I know and grumpy and hormonal and first world problem-ish and everything else. But I posted in tears this morning really needing some advice and my thread didn't get any responses for some reason. I bumped and a handful of people were kind enough to reply but when there are jokey threads about nothing that get hundreds of responses it does make you feel a bit crap.

I don't know where you're supposed to post or how witty your thread title has to be to get a decent amount of responses on here .

YANBU. I looked at your thread just now and I think the problem is that most of us here feel the same way. So it's hard to give advice which we need ourselves. You feel overwhelmed and too busy...there's not much say...I do too!

I feel guilty now, having posted a load of old toot over the past hour.

I missed your thread, please give us a link? I'll give any serious advice if I am able to. If not, then I'm sure others who might have missed it the first time round will try to help.

Sorry you're feeling low.

There are thousands of threads and not all can or will be answered , perhaps it's human nature to go to the more light hearted jokey threads?

I just replied to your thread in chat :) hope that helps!!

tis the nature of the site I am afraid. It isn't personal so I think YABU

I think stayclassy might be right, sometimes you are drawn to the lighthearted thread, especially if you are like me. I MN at work :) so tbh I've really got only half an eye on what is going on.

I hate to give proper serious advice if I know I don't really have time to concentrate on the replies or to read the OP properly, or to come back to the thread IYSWIM.

oh and I've just looked at your other thread and tbh even if I had read that I wouldn't know where to start with a reply. It's just too big IYSWIM and a bit of a big ask to expect someone else to sort it out for you

I generally come on Mumsnet for practical advice and to have a laugh. Although I can't seem to leave the MM thread alone, must stop now!

You're all right of course, I use the site for light relief at other times as well and quite often lurk without posting because I don't feel I can offer any useful advice.

I agree my OP was a bit of a big one but I was hoping for ideas about how other people cope or just a friendly reply (and I did get a few of both) rather than someone to 'sort it all out for me'. If you don't have anyone IRL to talk to this can seem like the ideal place to turn but I think I forget just how big it is.

I think leaving your DD's age out of the opening post might have made a difference too.

It's nearly always relevant when people are trying to give advice.

so mixedup since we are here now how about trying to break it down a bit? First off do you think you may be depressed at all? And yes how old is your DD

DD is 11. Depressed? I don't know but I am crying so hard I can hardly type. Work stuff which I can't post about here because I'll out myself. I just can't see any way out.

I do know what one of my problems is though - I daren't say what I really think to the people who make my life hardest. My DH is a good bloke (not perfect) and I talk to him like shot. My boss, my Mum, friends who've treated me badly - I just take it on the bloody chin .

ah, then it sounds like to need to deal with some of these people and tell them when they treat you badly. Either that or cut them out of your life. Do you think you should speak to your doctor about anxiety?

Any particular issues with your DD? At 11 she should be pretty self sufficient etc.

My DD causes me very few problems, poor thing gets the brunt of my obsessiveness and she's another one who doesn't deserve it.

Unfortunately the people who give me the majority of =grief are not people I can ditch. I can't see how a doctor could help me.

if you feel that normal life is becoming overwhelming and that you aren't coping with normal day to day pressures then a doctor may be able to suggest some methods of alleviating the anxiety.

There are always ways and means whether it is stepping back at work or facing the people who are making your life difficult. If your boss is awful then you need to speak to him or her about it. If you can't change the situation then you need to remove yourself from it.

I do need to change some things. DD is coming home in a minute and I can't stop crying. I need to get off here for a start.

Please may we have a link OP? I cant find your thread.

Thanks - this was my OP.