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Original poster

To wonder if its me?

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Joanne279 · 29/10/2013 19:08

Seriously just after a quick yes or no here.

Mil put a card and £40 through the door for dp birthday BUT she didn't give dd a card on her FIRST birthday 6 days ago because she hates me.

Would you keep the money or give it back telling her to F off! X

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RoxanneReidsChafingFishnets · 29/10/2013 19:09

Whatever he wanted to do.

Handbagsonnhold · 29/10/2013 19:10

Dp call really....his card....his cash...his birthday......

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 29/10/2013 19:10

It's up to your dp to decide.

YesterdayI · 29/10/2013 19:11

I agree with the other posters. Leave this to your DP.

mynewpassion · 29/10/2013 19:11

Let your dp decide. Its his.

WilsonFrickett · 29/10/2013 19:12

Up to DP - his mother, his birthday. Although if he kept it I would be expecting a nice family dinner or something on him!

Chocotrekkie · 29/10/2013 19:13

Spend the money on dd - take a picture of her wearing the clothes/ playing with the toy and send the picture to her in a thank you card.

But really it is up to you DH.

Bunbaker · 29/10/2013 19:14

She hates you therefore she hates her grandchild Shock

What an awful woman.

As for the card and money, it is up to your partner to decide. It isn't yours.

And why does she hate you?

Strumpetron · 29/10/2013 19:15

She isn't obliged to give her grandchild anything though, even though it makes her bloody tight and unreasonable!

Up to your DP, it's his mum and his gift.

Cheap day out would be nice, as a family. Then he can say he used it to take you and your daughter out Grin

Original poster
Joanne279 · 29/10/2013 19:25

Personally I feel like ripping every £10 note into a billion pieces and shoving it through her letterbox. Maybe I'm being hateful? Urgh I hate this woman's spite x

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Original poster
Joanne279 · 29/10/2013 19:25

Urgh. But then ripping every note up makes me just as bad :( z

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AutumnStar · 29/10/2013 19:26

I agree with those who say leave it to your DP. She sounds awful though.

Handbagsonnhold · 29/10/2013 19:27

What was your partners reaction?

DevilsRoulette · 29/10/2013 19:28

It's up to him, obviously but me, I'd tell her to sod off.

I wouldn't want anything from someone who could be so nasty in their view of my child.

Newsflash for her - child is a separate person from mother.

If she didn't want to give the child something, fair enough. If she actually chose to totally ignore the child, the birthday and gave nothing because she doesn't like the mother - she's poisonous and I'd worry how she would treat the child as they grew up, frankly, if that's her attitude.

Original poster
Joanne279 · 29/10/2013 20:14

She chose to ignore the child because of her hatred for me.

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DevilsRoulette · 29/10/2013 20:18

And how does your partner feel about that?

Because if someone treated MY partner and MY child like that - they could kiss goodbye to me.

BloominNora · 29/10/2013 20:20

If your DP is as pissed off with her behaviour, see if he will agree to spend the money on your DD instead.

Buy her a lovely outfit or a toy and then take a picture and send it to your MIL with a gushing message about how you've bought said lovely thing and thanking her Wink

Strumpetron · 29/10/2013 20:21

Why does she hate you?

FredFredGeorge · 29/10/2013 20:44

It's nothing to do with you, forget about it, forget about her. Why hate someone who doesn't care for you? Just ignore her, and stop getting irate, you'll be a lot happier.

It's DP's decision what to do with the money.

YesterdayI · 29/10/2013 20:58

How do know she isn't waiting to see her grandchild before giving her a present in person?

(Really sorry if you have already explained this but I couldn't see it)

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