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AIBU?

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to think I should be able to park on the communal driveway?

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 29/10/2013 16:03

Sorry for yet another parking post but I'm genuinely struggling to work out who's BU here! And sorry if it gets a bit long and boring..

I live in a block of six Housing Association flats (we moved in mid-2010). We have a communal driveway with space for eight cars which is partly in front of the flats and partly down the side (four spaces at the front and four at the side). I haven't had a car until very recently as I only passed my test at the beginning of this month, so I obviously haven't used the communal driveway until now. I have, however, paid the £2 a week paving/driveway maintenance charge that makes up part of our weekly rent. Until I got a car there were only eight cars in the block (the other three two-bed flats have two cars each, and the two one-bed flats have one each, if it makes any difference) but now there are nine, so we're short by one space.

The way the parking has worked up until now is:
Flat 1 used one front space and one side space.
Flat 3 used two front spaces.
Flat 4 used one front space and one side space.
Flat 5 used one side space.
Flat 6 used one side space.

When I bought my car I was chatting to some of the neighbours and one of them actually told me that they would 'kick off' if they came home to find I'd parked in their space. Another said I should just park on the road because everyone had 'their' space and I shouldn't mess with things. I kind of feel like I should be able to park on the communal driveway because there are enough spaces for every flat to have one car, with two left over, and I've paid for the HA to completely ignore maintain the driveway, even when I wasn't blimmin' parking on it! So for the last few weeks I've been playing Car Tetris, just parking where there's been a space and hoping no one comes to my door looking for a fight about it.. and now one of the neighbours has been getting quite aggressive about it, saying that I've got no right to just get a car after three years (even though they've only lived here eighteen months, if that's relevant) and start using everyone else's spaces. Are they right? AIBU to think that I should be allowed to use the driveway? I can see why it's irritating when they've all parked easily for however long, but I've got a right to have a car and park it too haven't I?

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BurlyShassey · 29/10/2013 18:42

Im longing to know who your HA is! pm me if you don't want to publicise it.

if theyre the same as I had.....good luck! and yes I really am tempted to name and shame.

its horrible that people re allowed to be so antisocial-especially about their precious places.

RagamuffinAndFidget · 29/10/2013 18:43

Thanks for all your suggestions. I think I will raise this again with the HA. I'm not a nervous wreck or anything but the thought of getting into a row with my neighbours isn't particularly pleasant.

Just to add to the annoyance on my part though - I've just found out that Flat 3 (the ones with two cars out at the front) have gone away until the middle of next week so I can't even pinch one of their spaces until then! Grin

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 29/10/2013 18:44

Burly It's Raven Housing Trust..

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WeAreEternal · 29/10/2013 18:58

I would be tempted to go out there with some stencils and paint and paint numbers on the spaces, therefor allocating one space per flat and then 'extra' spaces.

Yanbu.

YesterdayI · 29/10/2013 19:06

I would get the HA to send a letter sooner rather than later.

BurlyShassey · 29/10/2013 19:10

oh, not my former HA then, hope yours are better though, and yy sooner than later.

cheeky sods your neighbours leaving their cars there like that.

Op I really feel your pain, ive sooooo been there.

decaffwithcream · 29/10/2013 19:17

"..saying that I've no right to just get a car after three years" Grin

And I hope you consulted them before you chose your sofa too?

Seriously, that's hilarious.

It is amazing how aggressive people quickly become when they are trying to convince themselves that they must be in the right.

mineofuselessinformation · 29/10/2013 19:17

'I've asked the HA and they say that the spaces aren't allocated. If you have a problem with that, you will need to speak to them.' Then walk away. After you've said it once, it will get easier to say again and if they have any sense they'll shut up about it.

ChasedByZombees · 29/10/2013 20:22

God I'd get a second car, a fixer upper, and leave it without wheels stood on bricks for months in 'their' space.

have not taken this advice at all in my own parking dispute but I day dream of it frequently

FreeWoooooooo · 29/10/2013 20:30

A parking thread where not a single post so far says you're being unreasonable OP Grin I think the suggestion of asking them what is fair is an excellent idea as I just can't see them being able to justify 2 for them and none for you!

southeastastra · 29/10/2013 20:32

keep parking where you want and it will sort itself out or organise a group meeting to discuss like adults. if they don't want to then it's war :D

RagamuffinAndFidget · 29/10/2013 20:42

Free I know! It's like Christmas has come early Grin

I've taken all of your advice on board and will of course be using only the sensible suggestions..

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