To be annoyed that he doesn't like me posting on MN?

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He doesn't like me sharing private information in a public forum. I find it weird that he finds it weird.

I sometimes need to unload issues where people will judge me with no preconceptions and it wont impact on my life other than the information I take away from the discussions.

I don't have many friends I can discuss big life stuff with and I feel family would get too involved.

I now feel weird about posting but I don't want to feel censored. I don't feel I've revealed too much. Which of us is being unreasonable?

Well if you're posting private stuff with a "pretty obvious username, anyone close to me would have been able to guess" then I think it's fair enough for him not to be happy IMO.

I agree with flowery

Also I'm not sure about 'how girls work' either.

I just know how I work and that's in a fairly private way. My DH respects that and would never post anything private online that could identify me to people who know me.

Thing is I really haven't talked about anything too personal. Other than stating we had different opinions on the baby matter and asking wwyd.

We actually started the discussion because I read about the JM stuff and asked him how he'd feel. I wasn't sure if I'd feel comfortable talking about our sex life anywhere and since he's stated he would prefer I wouldn't then I won't. It then moved on to him saying that he wouldn't be happy if I mentioned anything about him. This thread would obviously not be able to exist if he had his way.

Although my username was obvious - now changed - I didn't write anything I don't want anyone to know; I just prefer to type than talk. I'm also fairly private and talking about personal issues can make me far too emotional and then they seem more dramatic than they actually are iykwim.

Well then I guess it's a case of what he doesn't know, won't harm him.

But I can see his point. I'd just feel weird if I knew my DH was tapping away at a keyboard and discussing our personal life with online strangers.

Then again if no-one did that, MN wouldn't really exist.

But I just wouldn't want to know about it, if that makes sense?

Mumsnet has the same rules as fight club

EXACTLY says so right at the top of the page.. I think. Something about fight club

If dh had to discuss something super private between us to someone I'd much prefer he do it under a name change on an anonymous forum than to one of his friends.

You have to talk to someone and sometimes when the person you need to talk about is your partner.. it has to be someone else. I think taking support from you is a shitty thing to do.

Hmm, I can see his point if you were discussing a personal matter, using a name that people you know could guess. Look at the PB thing - you are posting on an open website, that anyone can read.

However, I think that he is BU to expect that you should only discuss private issues with him. It is not a betrayal of your relationship. It is getting a different perspective.

If you don't reveal things that make you identifiable, he is utterly unreasonable. Everyone needs to talk, even if it's just a diary.

"I don't feel I've revealed too much."

If you've revealed anything to a bunch of strangers (which is what any forum is, including this one) then you've revealed too much. Why do you think you have a right to violate his privacy?

"Which of us is being unreasonable?"

You are.

tinkertitonk I'm sorry I 100% disagree.

MN is a fantastic place to talk stuff through, ANONYMOUSLY.

OP has namechanged and has not revealed anything about herself except that she is a young woman living with a partner somewhere in the UK. Which narrows it down to about 20 million couples.

Yes, that's a load of bollocks.

Do you think that anybody who has ever written to an agony aunt has betrayed their partner's trust?