I consider myself a nice person but am fed up with being taken for granted by friends. Sorry, these things are going to be mainly FB related, but as it's such a public platform it has got to me.
Firstly, I have a group of girl friends, one of whom I've known since we were at school together, and who I consider to be one of my best friends. This morning she has shared a slogan about best friends being there for you on FB and has tagged everyone from our group of friends, plus some other friends she has, and hasn't tagged me. She always does statuses about 'looking forward to catching up with my gorgeous friend X' or whatever, yet whenever she sees me or I do any favours for her, such as babysit for her children during the holidays, she barely thanks me, let alone publically thanks me. Yet if anyone does anything for her, even lending her a book, they get thanked via FB and she goes on about what a great friend they are.
Secondly, I have a friend who has had quite a hard time recently, and I have done a lot of things for her, as have other friends. Again, other friends get thanked publically (together with a photo of the cake/flowers/card they got her) but anything I do just goes unthanked. I recently drove for an hour each way to meet up with her when she was having a down day, and when I got there she was late to meet me, and didn't thank me for travelling, nor for the coffee I got her. Yet when she meets up with anyone else she does gushy Facebook statuses about it.
Thirdly, another friend popped round the other day, and started flicking through some magazines of mine, and saying she wished she was able to stay for longer so she could read them and I said that that was fine, she could have them, as I'd read them. And again I got no thanks at all.
Is the secret just to not bother doing anything nice for anyone, ever, and to be selfish? I'm thinking maybe that would make my 'friends' appreciate me more.